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First, can you get Mr. Travelchick involved at all? I've delegated a BUNCH of tasks to Mr. Bruschetta, and that's been a HUGE help!
Second, see if your girls are willing to come over an invitation stuffing party. Get to work, and then afterwards, cook up fajitas and mix up margaritas!
i'm in the same boat. it's less than 2 months until our wedding and i've had a hard time asking for help the whole way through. our wedding is in my hometown and my BMs are all in different cities. at first, it was easy to ask my mom and sister to help in choosing the venue, caterer, and other big vendors when i couldn't be there for tastings and such, but now that my to-do list is mostly full of small details and decisions on my part, i have no idea how to get help from anyone besides the groom (who is less than enthusiastic about planning...). everyone keeps asking if i need help, but i honestly dont what to ask for!
My mother was probably my biggest helper. I also planned a wedding from 5 hours away (near my family's cabin), so my mom did a lot of the scouting for me.
For instance, she did a lot of scouting of churches with/for me. Once I chose a church (the one nearest our venue and cabin) my mom helped with some of the details since she was there almost every weekend. That way when I came, I could just talk with the priest about the ceremony.
She also helped me put together the invites (addressing them, stuffing them, mailing them). But all of the design and order I did myself (other than my FI picking them up).
She also helped us by finding a baker with good prices and picking up our taster cupcakes from the bakery so that we could just try them when we got to the cabin instead of having to make a special trip.
Who of your friends/family are in the city where you're getting married? Can they help you by scouting- meaning maybe they can visit bakers, florists, etc. with your inspiration photos and get estimates, get a feel for the vendors, etc. and narrow down the choices for you so that you don't need to arrange all those visits yourself? Or, if you are trying to find officiants and videographers remotely- your MOH or BMs could do it too!
For the invites- can you just hand that off to a member of your FIs family? Do you care that strongly about them? Perhaps just give them the English language invite and ask them to make one just like it in the other language?
I think the best way to delegate is to decide which things are least important to you and then hand them off. But you have to decide that some things aren't important- otherwise you're just micromanaging. For me I didn't really care about the cake- I tasted the flavors, e-mailed some inspiration pictures and just let it go.
Also- ask your FI to help. Put him in charge of something and then trust he will do it. I put my FI in charge of our afterparty. I was worried because he's a procrastinator, but it turned out great. Maybe your FI can handle the invites. (Now I know you said he was working on his thesis- I have a PhD and have been through that myself. He can't work 24 hours a day. He can take a break from writing/editing/etc and see to an invite!)
Good luck!
And remember that your local board might be a good place to get recommendations on officiants and videographers!
Thanks for your great suggestions and support!
I have a couple of friends that are not part of the wedding party but live near me to help put together the invitations and stuff envelopes. We are DEFINITELY doing the post (not-pre!) margharita party. 
True, I should just trust my FI to do more planning and preparations. It's a great suggestion for him to simply translate the English to French. I was concerned that the French customs of doing invitations was different and needed to be researched, planned, etc. (e.g. FMIL and co. were wondering why they hadn't received invitations yet. They don't have STD cards so invitations get sent out 3 months in advance! FI never told me this and now I'm scrambling...)
I wil try to ask my MOH and BM to scout out potential RD venues. I think I'll have to choose the officiant myself though. Sooner or later, I'd have to meet him/her anyway.
The weddingbee boards have been my guiding light. Seriously, there are so many great suggestions, ideas, and conversations. Thanks, everyone!
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hi bees,
i don't know why i thought i would be able to handle wedding planning with aplomb or a reasonable amount of stress. i can multi-task like the best of 'em - until now. i had a near breakdown last night because i'm trying to organize getting invitations (in a language i don't even speak for my FI's side), to find an officiant, and to hire a videographer all remotely. this is in addition to finishing up a major project at work, finding a new job, and trying to be a supportive fiance as he finishes writing his PhD thesis.
i have a great MOH and a lovely BM, but they don't live in the same city as me. the tasks i need to handle, i feel are personal choices. however, i think saving my sanity will require me to delegate tasks.
so, what kind of tasks did you ask for help?