Post # 1
DH and I got our BFP this weekend and are super happy, but the thought of the deception ahead is stressing me out! We don’t want to tell immediate family just yet (soon, but not now). We have a family dinner with his parents and a few other relatives, and while I do want them to know soon, tonight is a big reveal about a European anniversary trip for MIL. So I can’t steal her thunder with baby news. We’re going to a mexican place where we always drink margaritas and have a good time. I’m not sure how to get around not ordering one without getting suspicious looks. SIL is 20 weeks and not drinking also. So they will automatically go that route and think something is fishy since she’s preg and we’re newlyweds if I don’t drink. I called the restaurant and they do not offer virgin margaritas.
We attended a superbowl party last night and I played off as exhausted after keeping my 2.5 year old niece all weekend (I was exhausted, but would have loved a beer!!). They were a little skeptical but accepted it (as far as I know).
My in-laws know I love a good margarita. How do I not drink, and not draw suspcision for not drinking? How did you handle it?!
Post # 3
@The_Future_KB: Tell them you are driving. That worked for me. Or just order the drink and as soon as the waitress leaves excuse yourself to use the bathroom. Catch her before she puts in the drink order and ask her to make it a virgin but not to announce it while at the table. Good luck tonight!
Post # 4
@The_Future_KB: tell them you are taking medication that cannot be mixed with alochol. (that happened to me once before) my husband and i have not told annyone but my mother, and when we go out wtih friends, or hang out, i just say i’m detoxing, since my friends all know i’m a heavy drinker, they just tell me i’m crazy and then end of convo,
Post # 5
@The_Future_KB: Tell them you are monitoring calories and alcohol is empty calories you could be spending on chips and salsa 🙂
Post # 6
I am not pregnant, but we’re trying…my excuse is always “I don’t drink” which is true so that’s easy for if/when we get pregnant, but that doesn’t help you 😉
I would just say something like “I’ve been fighting a sore throat” or make up some other “sick” excuse. Or you could say you drank too much yesterday (if they know you guys were watching the superbowl, and weren’t there, they wouldn’t know you also weren’t drinking)
Post # 7
Order one and fake sip or have your husband switch with you mid-dinner. It sucks, but it worked for us more than once.
Post # 8
@The_Future_KB: You could just say: you have some minor infection (ear, skin?) and are taking antibiotics, you are trying to lose weight, doing a health challenge with a friend. If none of those work, order one, and make your DH drink it on the sly by keeping your glasses close together!
Post # 9
The classic excuses are that you’re on a diet, you aren’t feeling well, or that you’re on some medication and can’t drink. Something simple like “Oh I don’t like to mix tequilla and cold meds, don’t want to have that much fun tonight, haha.” or “Eh just feel like a soda tonight.” Don’t over explain, that’s a dead give away for a cover up.
From pregnancies in my family I’ve learned that some people will push no matter what you say, and gossip may still happen. I’ve been asked if I was expecting when I just didn’t happen to feel like drinking. You can try your best and hope at least people won’t say anything to the whole group if they suspect.
Post # 10
Can you get there early and order your own drink from the bar? Like a cranberry and soda with a lime. If you have what looks like an alcoholic drink in your hand, people won’t question it.
Post # 11
@The_Future_KB: could you fake being hungover from a superbowl party you were at last night? Tell them you’ve had such a rough day and even the thought of alcohol makes you want to throw up again
Post # 12
@soccergal7898: +1 The medicine excuse always works! I’m not pregnant, but sometimes when I’m with my Drinky McDrinkerson friends, I just want an iced tea, and not one from Long Island!
Post # 13
@The_Future_KB: YAY! congrats on your BFP!!! I’d try to arrive at the restaurant early and talk to your server. Ask if she can bring you virgins even if you dont specify that it should be virgin. Or go the atibiotics route 🙂
Post # 14
Tell them you’re on a diet or are feeling sick. Or you’re on an antiobiotic. Or say you’re hungover from the superbowl. It shouldn’t be too hard. Or say you’re trying to get healthier so are not drinking for the month of February.
Post # 15
In my experience the antibiotic excuse fools nobody who has any experience around pregnant women.
Post # 16
@Ryansgirl: Ooh I like the hangover! They know I get hungover pretty easily, so that would probably be the most believable one.
The diet one would be hard b/c I will be partaking in lots of queso and fatty burritos! lol
Thanks for all the suggestions! I’ll have a different one for each occassion! haha 🙂