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My FI works 4 nights a week so it works for us during this time. I do all of the planning while he works and if I need him for appointments we go on his night off.
I do remember spending a lot of time planning especially in the beginning when I was trying to get a handle on everything. Unlike you, my hubs was busy himself with his job then his online classes so I wasn't taking away from our quality time.
Maybe you can come up with a schedule for yourself for your wedding planning so you make sure that you spend time with your FI. That would be my best suggestion. I am sure as you get the hang of things, you will be able to balance it all.
Whether wedding planning or not, I think couples will eventually run into a time where schedules aren't meshing and they need to speng quality time together. It happened to us when we planned our wedding, too, and one random Saturday, we dropped everything packed up the car (and dog!) and headed to the countryside/beach and had a picnic and talked about anything and everything that wasn't wedding-related. It was nice. It recharged our batteries, and we felt more connected when we got home late that night. We also spent the following Sunday doing stuff non-wedding related, and come Monday, we were back into it feeling mcuh better.
Just step back and take breaks.
yeah, this is the story of my life right now. i gave myself a HUGE breather by eliminating 2010 as a possibility for getting married. so i have (what seems like) unlimited time to plan :) even so, i'm tooootally into planning stuff. FH hasn't complained yet though...hehehe. i'm more of a night owl than him anyways. but my job takes up sooo much of my life even with throwing in a solid hour of thinking about wedding stuff almost every day :) i'm actually finding it difficult to find time to see my friends on top of everything else..... i live with my FH (which doesn't count as spending time together, i know, but we actually "hang out" and do stuff together on weekends). but i agree that it's good to take some "time-outs" if you will - spend quality time together that is not wedding-related.
I was lucky with a boring job and managed to do a lot of wedding planning/thinking during work hours so it didn't interfere with our home life! Otherwise I think I would set aside planning time - the wedding is one day but neglecting your relationship can affect the rest of your life. I've heard grooms say they don't recognise their fiancee anymore during the engagement and I never wanted DH to be able to say that about me!
It happens,, you just have to talk and work things out. Do you try to include him in the planning? Does he want to be? Don't let the planning consume your life and relationship, it;s obviously a huge deal but you don't want it to cause unneccessary tension and resentment.
we had a LDR going on, but when i'm at his place for the weekend (or vice versa) i always try to give him my undivided attention during the day [he knocks out at 10pm on the dot every night anyways]. i become a night owl, planning late into the night as much as possible. he gets a little bratty sometimes when i have something to plan/look at/do during the daytime, but after giving him some kisses, he's fine after that. he's actually even started being interested in the things i'm working on (: go figure.
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Work, planning a wedding, and spending quality time with you FI??
For the past couple of weeks, I've noticed that my FI has been making comments insinuating that he gets no quality time. He'll say things like "you're always on the computer", or "goodnight babe, I'm going to bed...alone". In hind sight, I guess I am consumed with the wedding. But that's expected, right??
Have you girls experienced this from your SO?? How do you balance everything??