Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have known for many months that we will ultimately be married. It was just a matter of time. Lately, the topic has become more real to us and I sense we will be engaged sometime this year…Which is good! However, he knows what kind of ring I DON’T like but doesn’t really know what I DO like and I feel uncomfortable giving him pictures of rings. When we pass by jewellery stores, he sort of glances at what I’m drooling over but doesn’t ask questions. A while back we agreed that he would like me to be a part of the ring-picking festivities.
So my question is this: For those of you who helped to pick your e-ring, how did you start?
Post # 3
I started by saving pictures on my computer and sending him links to things I liked. That’s a little lower-pressure than looking in person. Then, we got my great-grandmother’s stone, went to look at settings together, and voila! I found the perfect thing.
Post # 4
I always think that it doesn’t hurt to actually go into jewelry stores and try on some rings (as long as both you and your bf are comfortable with it!). Many times, rings look much different on your finger than they do in a display case or in a picture. Maybe together you will find the perfect ring, or maybe your bf will know exactly what looks great on you, and go on his own from there to surprise you with a ring.
Post # 5
I second Emilie. My finger is freakishly skinny at 4 1/4 so it was a good thing that we tried rings on at jewelry stores because a lot of things didn’t look good on my hand. We would go into Costco and try on the rings there (different cuts, bands, gemstones), just to see what it would look like. You should do it to!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I finally just got up the courage, after we’d talked about it (engagement, marriage) enough, to ask to go look at rings. He asked what I wanted to do one Saturday, and I said ‘look at rings?’, so we did. Then we went a few more places, looked at some online, etc.
I’m glad we did because the one I picked was not only much different than what he’d pictured me liking, but it was even a bit different than I’d expected. (I never even considered a marquise ring, which is exactly what I chose.)
It can still be romantic too – my bf is going to give me the ring when he feels the time is right – I won’t know exactly when. (So, it’s not like we just went down to the store and completely unromantically wrote a check and suddenly, bam, we’re engaged! 😀 )
Post # 7
You guys were all so much subtle about it. I went on bluenile.com found out everything I wanted….went to a jewlery store…made sure it was what I wanted…wrote all down gave it to him and quizzed him every once in a while on it :o) Please don’t think I’m a whackjob…I dont’ wear jewelery and I didnt’ want to have to wear a ring I didnt’ like….
He did better than I asked for! FYI–really look into buying the ring on bluenile it is a ridiculously awesome website and they are so reasonably priced.
We got my ring appraised for insurance and it was worth over $3000 more than he paid.
Post # 8
I spent a lot of time looking online to figure out what I liked and didn’t like. From there, I shared that with him and we went to a few different jewelers. The one thing I found is that it’s totally different in person than it is online. It’s hard to really judge the size and the look of the rings until you see them up close. In the end, I found a pretty unique style that I loved, and a local jeweler will be able to order it from one of their suppliers for us. It’s actually going to be a significant savings too, which is sweet.
I would say, just be honest about what you like. As my bf put it, "You’re going to wear this every day. I really don’t want to screw it up." If you’re nice about your requests, I’m sure he’ll appreciate the help.
Post # 9
We did a ton of research online first. We understood the 4Cs and then we branched out into color. We learned everything we could about colored stones, and then we went into jewelers and started looking. It really helped to be knowledgable, have a budget, and know what styles, shapes, colors and metals we were interested in before we got there. I felt we got a better deal than we otherwise could have by being informed consumers. I actually picked out a major flaw in one stone that a jeweler did not disclose to me. They were very much on their toes with us after that, and found us the perfect yellow diamond.
We did the same thing for his engagement ring (boy bling), but we only sized his finger at the jewelers and then we ordered the ring online.
Post # 10
I remember telling my boyfriend at one point that I would love to go ring ‘browsing’ with him, but not ring ‘shopping.’ That way I could find out my ring size, and see what looked good on my thin finger, but ultimately be surprised by what he chose. Before browsing, I also showed him pictures of rings online. (It was actually really interesting to see what styles he was not a fan of!)
I also made sure I had well-informed friends, so in case my boyfriend had questions, my friends would have the answers! I like to think I’m well-prepared
Post # 11
I’ve been having the same conversations with my boyfriend lately. A couple of weeks ago I emailed him a variety of rings I liked, my ring size, and where in town they sold those particular rings. It might sound a little crazy, but lets get going here! I figure if you’re talking about it, it’s ok to put it all out there.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
@gemini606 – that’s what we TRIED to do too, but we found that i had some pretty specific tastes and I ended up just deciding on one all together
Post # 13
@marquisemiss – Haha, as it turns out it’s fairly clear what I like too. But at least this way, I can remain blisfully ignorant of the price for a while. 🙂
Post # 14
Ahhh I’m so nervous about looking at rings! I really want HIM to pick it out…it would mean so much more to me that way, but at the same time…I’m going to have to wear it EVERYDAY! I’m just afraid that if we go "browsing" I’ll end up falling for one!
Post # 15
I actually looked on Amazon.com at all the different styles since I had no idea ahead of time what I wanted. My boyfriend asked me what kind of ring I’d like and I finally picked out a style that I liked the best and printed out a picture of it. It was very helpful and informative to check out their engagement ring section. He ended up going to a family member who is a jeweler (and asked alot of questions about diamonds) and got a fabulous ring and surprised me with it. 🙂
Post # 16
My guy thinks he’s been really stealth about things. So, so cute about it!
A few months back, he once took off my right hand ring and exclaimed "wow you have such tiny fingers! what size are you? A five or six? seven?" And of course I told him my exact size. Later on, (few weeks) he took off same ring again and stuck it on his pinky. This time he said "Wow. Look how little this is on my pinky. It only goes down to about there." He honestly thought I had no idea what was going on.
At the beginning of december, we were at dinner and he actually discussed it with me. He asked which solitaires I preferred. Did I want a round, a princess or an oval? I said round. He asked what kind of band around it? I said a plain platinum band with two solitaires on each side of the solitaire and told him to check out Tiffany’s site and Cartier for reference! He has a good friend who is a jeweler and that’s who he has gotten it from. But I sent him to those sites to get a good idea of what I want.
He has done all the shopping.
And I love it!