(Closed) how do you build chemistry in a long term relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We still go out of our way to have adventures together. We do a lot of travel (like, hard core travel – China, southeast Asia, Borneo, etc etc), we love trying new foods, volunteer together, etc. Keeps us from getting into too much of a rut. Always gives us stuff to look forward to and to talk about. Remember when you were first dating, and every date felt like a new adventure? We’ve been able to maintain that, and it’s awesome!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OP- to be honest, I’m concerned for you. I haven’t read all the way through your other threads, but I’ve seen the titles. Have you talked to your SO about your feelings?

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ejbri I understand, my FI and I just came through a rough patch (long story, brought on by family issues surrounding the wedding). I had a hard time not posting something referencing that part of my life on WB or in real life.

I guess to answer your question, we try to make a point to break out and do something different every now and then. Like last weekend, we were just out with some friends and ended up in some ridiculous game competitiion at a bar. Breaking out of the routine and making new memories helps keep it fresh. This may seem counterintuitive, but if you spend a lot of time together, spending a little time apart helps too. Not like “taking a break”, but doing some separate activities, so when you’re together there’s something new to talk about.

@crayfish Thanks for making me feel lame — you guys go to Asia, we play bar games, haha!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My FI and I have been together over 5 years, it’s not that long bustew still have lots of sparks. I would say lots of communication and date nights every week. We purposely sit down and talk over dinner for a few hours every week. Regular sexy time…..we spend every evening together and we still miss eachother. We also do several mini vacays a year which is great for our relationship. We bond over food, wine, tv & movies and social get togethers.

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