Post # 1
Couple of friends call them mom and dad, but that’d be too weird for me. I have been going by Mr. Lastname and Mrs. Lastname, but feels too formal. My biggest issue is with the MIL cause they’re divorced buy she kept the last name, is is ok to call her Mrs. Lastname in that situation?
Post # 3
I’ve been married for over five years, and I’ve completely avoided calling my in laws anything at all. 🙂
Post # 4
hahah not everyone’s as lucky as you mrbee
Post # 5
I just call them by their first names. Of course I know them quite well and with so many people all with the same last name, it would be really hard at family gatherings.
Post # 6
They aren’t my in-laws, but it took me 6 years of dating and a couple glasses of wine at Christmas to switch from calling my SO’s parents “mr and mrs” to first names. If/when we do get married, I don’t foresee switching again- it was too hard the first time. I think I’ll do like Mr. Bee and just avoid at all costs.
Post # 7
I call my future in-laws mom and dad. After close to 10 years of dating, it was a difficult transition, but in our culture, after you are engaged, you call them mom and dad. At first, it was really awkward and now its normal. (It took me sometime to get over the idea of having to call someone else mom and dad. So I just decided that no matter what I called my future in-laws, nothing will replace my parents – my mom and dad. 😉 )
Post # 8
Only when it’s absolutely necessary to address them directly, I call them by their first names. But, like Mr. Bee, I tend to avoid doing so at all costs…& I’ve been doing that for nearly 12 years of dating!
Post # 9
Eesh, now I feel a little guilty that I never called his parents “Mr__” and “Mrs. __” !! Was that bad etiquette to call them by their first names from the get-go? I’m sure that’s how they introduced themselves, although I don’t recall that exact moment… :-/
Post # 10
FI and I have both avoided calling each other’s parents anything at all in 6 years of dating. LOL
Post # 11
I call them Mr. and Mrs. I can’t imagine calling them Mom or Dad because they are not my parents. Plus, I am afraid that my parents may feel like they are being replaced. Maybe when I have kids I will call them whatever my kids call them.
After 28 years of marriage, my Mama has managed not to call my grandparents anything. lol But my Daddy calls my grandparents (mom’s parents) Mr. and Mrs.
Post # 12
We’ve been together for 7 years and married for 1.5 and I’ve avoided calling them anything this whole time! LOL I have no clue what to call them and even less of a clue for how to ask them.
Post # 13
We don’t see FIL much so I’ve never had to call him anything. I call my MIL by her first name, I’m sure that’s how she introduced herself although it’s taken a good 7 years and several bonding moments (like going to a Turkish bath together) to feel really comfortable with it! He calls my parents by their first names too. They aren’t very formal people. I introduced DH to my grandparents as Mr and Mrs, and left it up to them if they wanted him to call them by their first names.
Post # 14
I don’t call him anything at all if i could help it. in my mind i have quite a few names for him, but the few times i do have to i call him by his first name.
Post # 15
When I first met my future-in-laws, I planned on calling them Mr. and Mrs. Lastname. Thank goodness I ran it by my Fi beforehand cause no one ever calls anyone Mr. and Mrs. here – it’s way too formal. They even refer to their prime minister with his first name, it’s just how it is here! When it is a bit formal, the woman’s first name is always included, never shrouded into her husband’s name (which I love).
I try to avoid directly addressing them, but on the rare moments when I do, I use their first names. I’m getting used to it now, but it’s still a little weird to me.
My Mom, on the other hand, wants my Fi to call her Mom, although she hasn’t told him yet (but plans to). When they first met, my Fi also asked what he should call my Mom and I told him to call her “Auntie”. It’s a cultural thing for respect (you call anyone older aunt or uncle).
Post # 16
When I have to use a name, I will use first names – however it took 4 years of dating and 1/2 of an engagement to get there.