(Closed) How do you choose a maid of honor when you’re not that close to any girls?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who would you choose as the maid of honor?
    Cousin : (10 votes)
    30 %
    FI's Sister : (8 votes)
    24 %
    Law School Friend 1 : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Law School Friend 2 : (12 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Don’t have any MOH, just 4 bridesmaids? You shouldn’t feel forced into picking one, if none feel right then you don’t need one.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have 5 bridesmaids and none of them are going to be a MOH…. I cant choose just one and I dont want someone thinking there my MOH just because they can help more…

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

    What about having a man of honor?  🙂

    Post # 6
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You don’t have to have a MOH. Also, if you are close to a guy, why not ask him? I’ve always found it strange that the bride only picks girls, and the groom only men – I have good friends of both sexes!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I agree it could be a guy best friend, do you really need that many BM if youre not that close to them?

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If it were me, I would chose the person that will be the most supportive/ make me feel the best.  Even if they can’t help the most.  I would choose the person I was closest to.

    ETA:  And yes, you don’t have to have a maid of honor 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    how about not having one. I know I have thought about it and might do it.  you could just have them all be bridemaids.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I agree that you don’t need a MOH and that if you have a guy friend you’re really close to he can be your man of honor.  I don’t have any super close female friends and my brother is my best friend so he was my man of honor and I loved it. 

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I agree with pp’s- either don’t have a MOH or have a man of honor instead, if you have someone who fits the bill.

    *Edited to add- my MOH lives in TN and I live in CA.  It sucked that she couldn’t be there for as much as I’d want her to, but she did her best to be as involved as possible from afar.  We talked a lot on the phone, she did online research for me when she could, etc.  It worked out just fine in the end.  And what she couldn’t be there for, I called on my more local bridesmaids for.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    You dont have to have one.. theres not a rule, if your not comfortable with it dont do it!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I agree with previous posters… you don’t have to have one.  All 4 of my maids have been awesome friends to me & I couldn’t choose just one, so I made them all my Maids of Honor.  Make your own rules… you don’t have to have a MOH at all.

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee

    You don’t have to have a MOH…I’m not.  When people ask me who my MOH is and I tell them I don’t have one, sometimes people are like but YOU HAVE to have one.  Uh, says who?  In my opinion, it’s better that way…with a MOH you almost expect her to help you a good amount (i know that’s not a rule, but with that title, you almost feel like she should be there every step).  Since everyone is either too far away or two busy, it’s just easier not to have one so you won’t be let down when they can’t really help. 

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Yeah, if you aren’t close to anyone, dont have a MOH.  Unless your FH has a clear choice for a bestman…then you might want to choose a MOH.

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