(Closed) how do you choose?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would go with friend #2 she seems to really value your friendship and will most likely be the one to help you out the most since you see her most often. This could be a great opportunity for you to encourage your budding friendship- she obvioulsy wants to!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you only want 4, have 4. Since your FI is having 8 guys, each girl could walk down with 2. I’m an uneven bride as well, so I know from experience you shouldn’t ask someone if you don’t really want them involved.

However, if you want to involve both of your other friends, I’d go ahead and ask them.

Post # 5
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Only have the people you want to have!  I didn’t ask my sister to be a BM, even though I was one of hers, and I haven’t heard any grumblings through the family grapevine about it.

Everyone has different reasons for having the number of BMs they end up with.  I thought about who I’d want to have around me through the process and on the day, and one sister and two friends fit the bill.  My other sister can be prickly and demanding, so she’s a guest.  

You might consider having your closer friend be a reader instead, so she has some role without being one of your BMs.  But who you want is most important.

 

Post # 6
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

When it comes to your wedding p arty, only include people you’re genuinely close to. Don’t worry about the “Oh, well she asked ME” stuff. You could regret it later (there have been so many threads on the boards about bees having girls in their wedding party because they felt like they had to, and they’ve regretted it).

I think the only exception to this rule is in-laws. If your FI has sisters, I would ask them, even if you’re not close (unless there’s some tension there or something). It’s a wonderful gesture and could better your relationship with them.

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