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Not 29 that's for sure!!!!!
I classify a mature bride really late 30s and up!
IMHO, I think that mature brides are not classified by age. I am 23 and am getting married. Alot of people tell me that FI and me are very mature for our age. (he's 24) We have always been considered by our friends and family as "old souls."
I think it depends on the person, i too am having an adults only reception just becuase i feel that weddings are not appropriate atmospheres for children. But again it's just me.
Mature brides com in all forms, shapes, and ages and i classify them as women who are empowered, driven, selfless, humble and aren't selfish or bratty about every single thing in life although we all have our moments, but not in an overwhemling matter.
I wouldn't say under 30 is mature...well, you're obviously mature enough to get married...but...you know what I mean!! I voted for 32-39 b/c I was thinking that getting past child bearing age is getting to be more mature.
I think that with our parents (at least my parents), they got married at a younger age. My mom was only 21 when she got married and had all 3 of her kids by the time she was 30. I on the other hand was married at 27...I'm 29 now and still no kids. I think that things are a little different now. Women are waiting a little longer to get married (not all...but some are...), and I think that's weird to our parents who may have gotten married really young.
I would say a "mature" bride is like, mid 30's and up. And when you say the "feel" is different, I dunno, that sounds to me like a small but intimate ceremony with not really a party style reception. I think of VERY uber classy. Like a cocktail party that Audrey Hepburn would attend, haha.
I think, really, your aunt meant it more like your wedding is less of a big fling with drinking and dancing (less crazy party). And I know that my parents got married "old" at 26 and 29 (ha!) but i've noticed that if you get married young, it's more like, "young love/hope/new beginnings/starting out on their own for the first time" for the young couple. But when you are older, it's a different feel I think.Because they haven't quite lived as much as someone in their 30's. Kinda like how we all say "oh, i'm mature and i'm 24 years old" but i know when i'm 30 i will look back and say, "not the same".
I know I'm not explaining this well. But i can understand it. There's been different vibes from the weddings I've attended of 19 year old friends and those who are in their late 20's.
Oh I also think of those cute family wedding photos of the older couples (30's/40's and up) with their children in their wedding photos. Very cute.
Oh no! Just let that one go, Goldilocks.. I'm the first woman in my family to go past 22 without being married, so I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. But do NOT let that dampen your spirits. It's your wedding and . . . wedding have changed a lot in the last decade or so, they've become more personalized, showing more of the couple's personality.
Oh, I'm 37, my niece got hitched before me and there were fun family jokes about that one. However, I still don't consider myself a "mature bride." Whatever that means.
People usually will say a 'young bride' is in their late teens,early 20's, and a 'mature bride' is in their 30's. I've never heard of any name for those in the middle of that range,tho. Older brides are in their 40's, so at 29 I'd say you're closer to being 'mature' than 'young'. Nothing wrong with that!
I'm only 28 and I felt like a mature bride. I felt ridiculous doing anything like a bouquet toss or garter toss, most of those things were left out of my wedding because I felt like we were too old for it. Two years ago we might have done it, but now that we're approaching 30 it seems a little weird.
I feel like that's just an attitude of some of the older generations (our parents, etc.) because when they were young it was much more common to get married really young. So, to them, getting married at 29 is considered an "older" age to get married. That's just not how it is anymore, though!
Definitely not 29! That's how old I am. I would consider a "mature bride" as someone having their first marriage at the age of 40 or later.
I think this is an "old-fashioned" term. Things are different today. People get married much older than they used to. It's an outdated term (or maybe I'm saying that becuase I'm 44...LOL). It's kind of like saying once you are past 35 you are more likely to get hit by lightening than get married. Today, that is b.s.
Thanks ladies - I love all the different perspectives! I found it funny to be classified as a "mature bride". And yeah, we're having a different style wedding - small, intimate ceremony with a cocktail reception and dancing. No full dinner, few of the traditions. Just making the ceremony "ours".
So, I think that's what I'll classify as the new definition of "mature bride" - it has nothing to do with age, it's a mindset where you're past the point of trying to please everyone but yourself and are more interested in having the wedding be representative of the couple, your relationship and your plans for the future.
I don't classify anyone one as "mature" according to their age. How mature a person is, to me, classified by their behavior. Mature people are more responsible.
@moderndaisy: I had the same impression. I'm just at the point in my life when some of the traditions feel really ridiculous, and some of the bride pomp is even worse. I am a lawyer, not a princess, and I like it that way!
I don't think "mature bride" has anything to do with age in my honest opinion. It has to do with not screaming, "It's my SPA-CHUL DAY! It's all about ME ME ME ME!" lol. To me mature bride is knowing the actual reason for the wedding.
Though, I suppose in your case, the ladies were talking about brides of a certain age and in that case, no I do not believe that 29 should be classified as a "mature bride."
"Mature" only has anything to do with age when you are using as a synonym for 'old/elderly.'
When actually using the word 'mature' to define maturity (maturity , mature), it does not necessarily hold the same connotations.
I do not think 29 is 'old', but it could very well be a very mature age depending on the individual.
I think it depends on the context.
Haha don't worry, I'm sure you're very im-mature! Just kidding.
My parents got married at 27 in the 80s and that was considered old then. But now, who cares? It's not about age, it's about the point in your life you meet the one you are supposed to be with.
I'm 31 and not a mature bride, so you're definately not one. It's all just people thinking that not beign married by a certain age means you're too old to ever find someone. They're "mature" in their thought and should be ignored.
FYI-32-39 is not past child-bearing age.
I think it depends on region in a lot of ways. Where I grew up, late 20s would be considered mature (everyone seemed to get married after high school). Where I live now, mature would be considered much later.
It definitely depends on the person! I find a lot of women, who chose to really focus on careers tend to start the whole process of wedding/children a little later in life. I am 28 and was not ready to get married until I was sure I was mature enough to make the lifelong committment. Some mature earlier or later. As for childbearing age, it again is different for everyone. Health and lifestyle are what affect fertility not soley the number. Although, some recommend staying under the 35 mark to "start" your family as age "can" increase complications.
I kind of feel that people have their own ideas about "when" and "how" things should be done based on their choices, and whether young or older I think we all know what WE want, not matter what someone else might be doing. As for the "mature" bride...I would say it would be someone later 30's or older for sure!!! Not 29 LOL...And, if not I guess I am a mature bride myself!!! Hahahaha.
I'm 30 and fiance is 32... but we look younger! We're definitely more mature than most 19 or 20 year olds who get married and our party is going to be slightly different as well considering our guests are for the most part older than us... but I wouldn't say I'm a "mature" bride.
I used to think 35+ was mature, but my sister in law was married last February at 37 and I wouldn't classify her as "mature" at all... (both in looks and personality.) There's nothing matronly about her. She did opt for just a simple civil ceremony since her husband was previously divorced.
@BonbonBunny: When you say different do you mean more low key? or just not the typical ceremony/ reception?
We want to elope then have a cocktail reception with a band and just have fun, but we are afraid we may offend some traditional family members,,,although friends our age were ALL about the having a party and looking at pics of our quiet ceremony. I am curious to what not typical means to other brides to be! Although I find ALL wedding beautiful in their own way :)
Well my fiance didn't really want a "night club" type reception! haha We're having our wedding at night, and there might be some dancing, but since the majority of our guests are older than us it's going to be a lot more low key and not as much of a party atmosphere as if it was a younger crowd. We're only going to have about 40 guests as well. :)
But who knows? Maybe some of the senior citizens will surprise us! Put on some oldies and an open bar and who knows what can happen. :P
Eloping and a cocktail reception sounds like fun. :)
@BonbonBunny: LOL. Yes they can definitely surprise! I hear you on the night club vibe hahaha. Nice to keep receptions a little more on the wedding side of things! That is our fear with the cocktail idea, will it become too night at the roxbury!!! lol good luck with your planning!
@2PeasinaPod:32-39 is NOT past childbearing years, fyi.
I think it depends on the bride. I think there comes a point where it just happens, regardless of age. I'm 35 and would probably say I'm more of a mature bride. It isn't about the big party for me or the boquet toss/garter toss. I wanted a small intimate family wedding, to make it really about us and the people who mean the most to us. I don't want to have my parents "give me away" but they are walking me down the aisle - I feel like I've been on my own for too long and it'd be different if I was going from my parents house to my marriage home in my early 20's.
If you don't consider yourself a mature bride, than you're not. I wouldn't worry about it too much. But there is nothing wrong with being viewed as such.
A mature bride at 25-30? Crikey. I think of a mature bride as being 50+ ish, maybe on her second marriage. Plus, 25-35 is the average age to get married, right? My first friend to get married married last year. He was in his mid 30s. My first really close friend married last summer, aged 27. I have two more friends and a cousin planning their weddings over the next 18 months. Out of all 6 people getting married (3 brides, 3 grooms) the youngest is 25 and the eldest 36.
Yeah I definitely think of "mature bride" as being a euphemism for "significantly older than the average bride"
ETA: which is to say, much over 30... like 45+
I think that mature has to do with each person. I don't think that someone can be classified by age when it comes to maturity. Ever hear the saying 'She's mature for her age?'. Obviously, I don't think that someone who is, say 9 years old is mature enough to be married, even if she is mature for her age. But saying that someone who is 30 and a bride is more mature than a bride who is 25 is not fair since that's only a 5 year difference and based on life issues and personality.
Wow, I'm 37, will be 38 when I get married in Sept (1st time!) and we're planning on trying for kids. I don't consider myself a mature bride. Maybe someone in their mid 50s and up??
Ae is just a number... your maturity is all about your lifestyle, personal choices and stability.
SUCH AS:::
DO you party all the time - not really mature
DO you work everyday and not at the local fast food restaurant - maturity
Do you make smart chouces in your life.. such as saving your money for the future, you have health insurance, you say no to drugs lol, you know your family is more important than hanging out with other people.
Are you financially stable enough for marriage... can you afford to live on your own and pay the bills (consistantly)
What are your plans right now? Instant gratification longterm sucess..
The foundations of marriage should be similar to a buisiness plan (not in the literal sense) but are you a good investment. (for your spouse that is) and are hey a good investment for you its all about longevity and where you're going from here, but also where you are right this minute.
I voted 39+. My thought on "mature Bride" has nothing to do with what we usually think about mature... my thought when someone says "mature Bride" they are usually trying to say nicely that the bride is older... and to be quite honest 29 is not old in our generation to be getting married! I will be 28! I think that our parents generation came from everyone getting married younge... my dad married his 1st wife at 19, and my mom married her first husband at 21. sadly neither worked out, but when they met they have been happily married since. they were 26 when they got married together. but alll my other aunts and uncles were married so younge! on my FI side his mom was 17! crazy in my eyes! we have been told by so many people ... when are you getting married, since like 6 months of being together.. CHILL OUT PPL! we dont have to rush into this! we have happily been together for almost 6 years now and will be marrying later this year. we will both be 28! :) and I dont consider that OLD! :)
Huh. i would probably use "mature" only to mean a post-menopausal bride... like one in her 50s. I don't like "mature" as a euphemism for "older"--to me, "mature" should be a compliment about someone's character!
Fiance and I are both turning 24 but won't be married until we are both 26. Yet most people say that we are mature. Likewise we are having an adult only reception. I don't feel children need to be weddings, most of them are restless, bored and get tired. Sometime they also take away from the celebration of bring two lives together.
I also don't think mature can be based on age. Its about each person individually and how they carry themselves.
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So this was a random conversation that popped up during my shower a few weekends ago. My mom was telling my aunts how we're planning an adult-only reception because of size and other things. And my aunts were like "yeah, I suppose that when the bride is more mature, the feel of the wedding is different" (as in, more focused on the bride and groom's lives and less on making it a family reunion, I think?).
But here's the kicker - I'm only 29. Which I don't necessarily classify as a "mature" bride, from an age perspective.
What do you classify as a "mature" bride?