Post # 1
What’s the best way to get the correct mailing addresses from all your guests? We won’t be sending out paper STDs (we’re having a fairly small, low-key, local wedding, and only have a few guests who would need to get flights). Is it tacky to just email or call them (which would serve as an informal STD, I guess)? We also have a lot of student friends who may be moving to new jobs, etc. in the year to come, so I’m wondering what the “correct” way to deal with that is.
Post # 3
I just asked people for their addresses or asked someone for them like friends who might have them or the FIL’s
Post # 4
We used a variety of methods: mom’s address book, phone book, text, asking in person, facebook (just shot them a quick message asking for their address, I didn’t do it on their wall because I didn’t want others to see it and ask why I didn’t need their addy), and FI had one of the train masters at work write down all his addresses for work buddies.
Post # 5
I had some from Christmas cards, so that helped. I set up a Google docs for collecting addresses but only like 10 people did it so that was a waste of time for the most part. I got a lot from my parensts and FMIL and the rest I just emailed or Facebooked people. If someone didn’t respond after we had asked two or three times we gave up and assumed they didn’t want to come. LOL!
Post # 6
Nope, I don’t think it’s tacky to call them up and ask. I got a bunch from my mom, and FI’s mom, the rest I have sent emails or facebook messages. Some people I will actually have to call.
Post # 7
I had my parents collect their friends & email them to me. I had my husband’s parent’s collect their family and friends and send them to me. Then we called, texted, emailed & facebooked our friends to get all of theirs!
Post # 8
I made a docs form then created an easy to remember redirect for it (http://addresses.ourdomain.com). I sent that link to all our guest via email, facebook message, text message, and called them with it.
In the end we only had to get 4 or 5 addresses from our parents. Everyone else filled out the form.
It was handy because I also had people list their significant others so I could get a good idea of who needed a +1 and who didn’t.
Post # 9
We used several medias as well – facebook for some, texting, calling, asking our parents to ask, etc. Also, FMIL had a lot of addresses from my FSILs weddings 6 and 9 years ago!
Post # 10
I made my mom and FI’s step mom get all of the family addresses. I asked my friends for theirs, and FI asked his friends for theirs.
Post # 11
Good to know that it’s OK to Facebook or text for addresses if need be. Thanks!
Post # 12
@bakerella, I’m sorry your Google docs effort didn’t work so well…I made one up also and am planning on sending it out somtime soon(ish). I hope people will use it 🙂 (fingers crossed). Otherwise, I guess I’ll just email/ask mom!
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club
I had our parents get the addresses from family and their friends, then I called, e-mailed or used facebook to get our friends addresses. We did send save the dates, so a few peoples addresses changed by now. We needed the updated ones for invites, so I sent out a facebook message asking for their updated addresses. Not sure if its tacky, but it works! 🙂