How do you control yourself from getting so far ahead???

posted 2 years ago in August 2015
Post # 2
120 posts
Blushing bee

nygirla:  ….thought I was the only one. Lol. I’d like to know as well

Post # 3
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Chateau

My fiancé proposed in September of 2014 and my wedding date is in July 2016!! I plan in waves and sometimes I feel like “WOW it’s too close, I’ll never have everything done in time” and sometimes I feel like ” Oh man…so far away”. I don’t worry so much about slowing dowm, this is what I love to do. I love planning my wedding! Thank goodness I did go quickly though, because I have already had to book our reception venue (it was already booked up for most of July and August 2016!) and our photographer (I knew I wanted her exactly and she was getting booked up too).<br />I say, don’t worry about slowing down, do as much as you can if you enjoy it 🙂

Post # 4
7911 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

nygirla:  what is this “take it slow”? lol.

Ive been engaged since the end of May, wedding Sept 2015 and I have contracts with: venue, florist, caterer, planner, band, photographer, videographer and almost rentals.

The more I do now, the less I have to stress later!

Post # 5
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

It creeps up on you fast.  Plus you won’t always be as excited and into planning as you are right now.  I went through stages of doing a lot, and not wanting to do anything. 

Everyone told me I was getting ahead of myself, too, but here we are two months out and we are right on schedule!  Just go with the flow. 

Post # 6
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our wedding is June 2015 and we have most of the big items taken care of already. We just have details left, for the most part. We did so much do early so we could enjoy being engaged all the way up to our wedding instead of being super stressed the last couple months. It never hurts to have your ducks in a row, IMO.

Post # 7
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

nygirla:  OP… Think you’re doing the right thing. You’re actively getting a start to a big important day. Seems as though you’re ahead of the game, yet relaxed about planning it. That’s awesome! You’ll feel relieved knowing you don’t have to cram things last minute.

Just think… You could be in my shoes. We’re looking to get married in June 2015. Haven’t done anything yet, including setting an exact date (hoping for June 27th). At least we know it’ll be in a backyard, and very casual, so I feel as though much planning isn’t really needed.

Best of luck to you! Enjoy the planning 🙂

Post # 8
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oct 2014 bee here, but I had nearly a 2 year engagement so I know exactly how you feel.

Quite honestly, I began planning as soon as we got engaged, and I’m so glad I did! Some of the venues we looked into were already booked for our day, while other vendors thought we were nuts for planning already.

I have to say I was REALLY glad I started early, I was able to get SO much done that my last few months of planning [which I’m in right now] are a breeze.

I did make a few purchases that went to waste as my colors/vision changed a little, but it was probably only $300 worth of stuff.

Post # 9
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


nygirla:  I wouldn’t worry about slowing down.  You will eventually just because you do get a little burnt out.  Getting your venders in a row now will give you first choice and help you to avoid the whole “OMG, they are booked, I can’t find anyone” problem.  I had a rather calm and comfortable wedding week other than a mother who insisted on freaking out because I was organized early. 

Post # 10
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’re date twins!  I’ve been engaged for over a year already (it flew by!) so I’ve been planning for a long time.  Mostly, I take my time really researching. I will contact people to get some more information, but let them know we won’t be ready to book for several months.

Honestly, it is not too early to start booking things.  I don’t know about your area, but we’re near Boston and every books so early! We’ve already booked the venue, photographer, videographer, and dj.  We have a color scheme and I bought my dress.  We plan to book the caterer, event rentals, officiant, and florist in the next month or two.

It’s given me a lot of peace of mind to have things done early.  So, happy planning and if you love something, book it!

Post # 11
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

nygirla:  I proposed to FI TWO HALLOWEENS AGO!! And the wedding isn’t until NEXT September, an almost 3 year engagement. But let me tell you, I’ve got so much worked out already, it’s awesome. I really didn’t want to be spending the last couple months of engagement as an angry she-devil stressed out about everything. This way, all we’ll be doing leading up is finishing up decorations, finalizing things, etc. I say keep that train moving. Real life will slow you down. Places won’t book far enough in advance, you haven’t saved up enough for this yet, it’s just not practical to buy this right now, etc. I say do what you can, be excited while doing it, and cut down on stress closer to the date.

Post # 12
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

nygirla:  I didn’t. I just went with it. It proved to be the best way to plan because the last few months have been completely stress free for us. Everything is done and its just a nice time to enjoy the build up to the big day (which is on Saturday).

We were engaged in September 2012.

Post # 13
61 posts
Worker bee

You and I have the same wedding date!!! And I have EVERYTHING planned already. Wedding favors are made and even the guest book decore/ gift table decore has been bought and pictures have been taken to show people just the way I want it. I think the coordinator at my venue things I’m insane, but I’ve already brought linens and centerpieces over and set up a table in the reception room as well as measured my isle runner in the ceremony space. 

I am going into second year medical school this september and I am getting as much done as humanly possibly this summer while I have time off. Because the last thing I want to be doing is worrying about wedding stuff when I need to be learning. For me, planning early means piece of mind…. Not “getting ahead of myself”… Trust me, there is always something to do later, even if you plan your heart out now. Leaving things to the last minute just means stress… But if you are someone who likes to change your mind a lot, planning early may not be ideal. A lot of decisions you make early are set in stone once you make them. 

Post # 14
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 9/2016

Phew Im soo happy im not alone lol. My FI proposed in Feb of this year and our wedding is April of 2016. Sometime I wish it was closer and other times I think its the perfect time lol. We have our hall ( which includes almost everything), favours chosen, I’ve asked all my bridesmaids, their dresses our chosen. I have my dress (only because wwe went shopping for fun I fel in love with it and my aunt bought it for me on the spot as an early wedding gift! I also have my bouquet because I made my own brooch bouquet. LOL Some people think I’m crazy planning soo early,  but I just like having things organized 🙂

Post # 15
3331 posts
Sugar bee

nygirla:  TOO FUNNY, my FH also proposed June 17 and we are getting married on August 8th, 2015!

So far I’ve booked a venue, working on booking a photographer and am looking at caterers. I want to get this stuff out of the way since summer weddings book fast!<br /><br />

I’ve also been looking online to get inspired about decorations, invitations, colours, etc. but haven’t made many decisions yet aside from my general “look” for the day. I plan on flying home in the fall sometime (currently living across the country from where my wedding will be) to try on dresses and visit the venue (I’ve been therebefore, just never with “my wedding will be here!” in mind).

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