Post # 1
We’re looking to rent a house closer to my husband’s job, which is basically in the middle of nowhere (from my city girl perspective). We’re limited to houses because there aren’t any apartment complexes in the area, that’s how rural it is. I’ve never had to actually leave town to go to the supermarket before. Little things like that just creep me out. Is there a way to cope with this? Any tips?
By the way if we were to go with an affordable apartment, the closest would be in a very dangerous city (Trenton, NJ) and to hell with that!
Post # 3
@Aquaria: We used to move every year when my first husband got transferred. The most important thing to remember is that there are nice people everywhere, and that’s what makes the difference.
Post # 4
@julies1949: I just want there to be people everywhere! It doesn’t even matter if they’re nice or not lol! I know I need to get over this fear of seclusion but I don’t know how.
Post # 5
@Aquaria: honestly, I was a born and bred city girl who moved to the sticks to be with DH and I’ll never go back! I am a bonafide country girl at heart and have sworn never to live in the city again. At least for me, rural life is sooo much nicer in so many different ways. One, the scenery. It’s beautiful out here in the middle of nowhere! Two, peace and quiet. Three, small town mentality where it’s so easy to make friends and everyone knows everyone. The list goes on.
Good luck to you, and just remember that home is where the heart is. You and your husband are what make a home, and I hope you’ll have as positive a change of heart as I did.
Post # 6
I am a rural girl and currently forced to live in a huge city for graduate school, so it’s pretty much the opposite for me! It’s definitely not the way of life for everyone. I would rather have a longer drive to get to the stores in order to have more space to do the things I enjoy. Check out the farmer’s markets, there is probably a horse ranch or barn near where you can take riding lessons or volunteer, meet some friends by going to visit your neighbors (bring them a homemade dessert or something). Your husband will likely meet friends from work who will go out with you. There are likely small restaurants or bars somewhere near where everybody knows everybody- introduce yourself and say you moved in close by!
When at your house you can enjoy planting your own garden. Learn to can and preserve your harvest- and make new meals out of it! Line dry your clothes outside in the nice weather. Spend time antiquing and setting up your new house.
People out in the country are usually pretty friendly, and there is a lot more to do than people realize. The bottom line is to get outside and do something, and introduce yourself to the locals. Learn some new skills and get some new hobbies. Good luck!
Post # 7
Just think about how much MONEY you’ll be saving by living out there!
I grew up in the country and moved to the city for college. I love living in a city, but I also appreciate where I grew up and really enjoy visiting my parents. You get so much more SPACE out there.
It’s not that bad, I promise!
Post # 8
We just did that and live on the outskirts of a smallish town in Texas. I LOVE IT. COL is so much better, and the people are so genuine that I can’t imagine ever leaving.
Post # 9
@Aquaria: You do get used to it. I can promise you this. I grew up in a town of 100,000 then moved to a town of 250,000 then relocated to a town of 186!! You get used to it. It takes some adjusting knowing that you can’t just order takeout on a Friday to your apt or that you have to “plan” your shopping trips but it is so nice living in a rural area. The only thing I will caution you about is that sometimes in smaller towns everyone knows EVERYONE which in turn means they all want to know your business. So sometimes small towns can get a little overwhelming but people are generally nicer. You end up replacing some of your hobbies with things to do at home. Instead of going to the club you make your own fun at home.
Because my FI is so wonderful we do plan regular “city” trips where we get a hotel in the cities and spend the weekend doing the things we miss out on. Fine dining, public transportation, and of course shopping.
Hugs, it does get easier!
Post # 10
I’m a huge city girl and that would creep me out too. I have no helpful advice to give, but wanted to wish you good luck & a smooth transition!
Post # 11
I just moved to a rural area. It is 10 minutes to the nearest store, which is very small. The best thing about it is living across from a farm and watching the beautiful sunrises and sunsets on my front porch. Also, the neighbors are so friendly so that helps. The commute to work took a little getting used to, but having land and space, fresh air, quiet nights…..it was very easy to get used to. I was used to hearing ambulances, music, neighbors all hours of the night…so getting away from all of that is soooo nice!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Honest? It’s not that hard to adjust. I grew up 2 miles from the Baltimore City line and spent 30+ years living with everything super close by. Now I drive 15 minutes to get to a grocery, 35 minutes to get to Target, etc., and it doesn’t bother me at all. The biggest adjustment for me was that there is no pizza delivery out here. I mean, some nights you just want to stay in your PJs and be lazy, but that isn’t quite possible. Darn. But the space, the quiet, the ability to see soooo many stars, the friendly and welcoming neighbors, the trees and rolling fields as far as the eye can see…. yeah, those things totally override the lack of pizza delivery.
Now I find the city experience to be stressful. Our idea of a “traffic jam” is getting stuck behind a piece of farm machinery for a few miles. Real traffic jams, which I used to resign myself to, now stress me out. Our idea of a crowd is a few hundred people calmly milling about and smiling. Now being on a city street with all of that noise and movement and stony faces leaves me feeling a touch overwhelmed.
Post # 13
The biggest advice I can give is get to know people! There’s usually a lot more going on in small towns than you might think. I used to live in a town of under 2000 and we still had Zumba classes and yoga, book clubs, and lots of other stuff. I met lots of very nice women that way. It was nice to live in a place where I knew most of the people, where when I’d go for my daily jog people would smile and wave, etc. And I miss the quiet, and my big yard. I live in the city now, and I can’t wait to get out and move back to the country. Sure there’s a lot going on in the city, but it’s a lot less friendly, and a lot noisier and more rushed.
As far as groceries and stuff, you will figure it out. Planning your meals in advance will help, as will buying in bulk. I always had meat and frozen vegetables in my freezer, and all the staples in my pantry. Unless you want to go to town every week you will not always have fresh fruits and veggies, but frozen and canned can be just as good. Of course it depends how far you are from town. I lived an hour from the nearest big centre, so I tried to only go there once every two weeks. If it was only 15 minutes I probably would have gone once a week. It just takes planning.
Post # 14
I LOVE urban living, but I spent YEARS living in Vermont.
I’d enjoy how much CHEAPER everything is! Farmers markets are 80% cheaper, and food is cheaper, you can enjoy cooking and walks out in nature and hiking.
Post # 15
my situation is the opposite of yours. i grew up on a ranch- we had lots of neighbors, but also plenty of “breathing room,” lots of pets/animal, it was a 10-30 minute drive to town (depending on where needed to go), fruit stands everywhere, seeing the stars every night. i loved it. some of my friends/family from the city don’t really get country life. they’re always like, “what if something happens???!!!” but it’s not like we were completely cut off from civilization, lol.
now i live on a military base with a very busy street right behind my house. i can’t stand it, haha. but i’ve gotten used to other aspects of it- having neigbors close by, i like that everything (stores, restaurants, etc) is close by, and i love that i can have food delivered to my house! but i’m still a country girl and can’t wait to be away from the noisy city again!
i’m sure you’ll get used to it. good luck 🙂
Post # 16
@Aquaria: if you don’t care if the people are nice or not, then why not move to Trenton? Just sayin :p I prefer living in a rural area (my town has a fire station and a city hall/post office and that’s it we’re so small). People don’t get all up in your business and you can let your pets out without worrying about them being hit by a car. It’s great.