Post # 1
Hi all i am new to this side of weddingbee but me and my husband have spoken about having a baby, i have been ready for over a year but he wanted to get married first, we married on the 13th July and we agreed that we would have my implant removed after our honeymoon which ends on the 9th August.
I know how long it takes some people to get their cycles back to normal after the implant is removed and we really would like me to have at least one ‘normal’ cycle before TTC just so we know when to BD or test etc but its driving me mad, i know when im allowed to have unprotected sex but i have no idea when i will be actually TTC 🙁
What tips do you ladies have on waiting, taking my mind off it etc?
Post # 3
I’m part of the Waiting to Try to Conceive forum at JustMommies. That place has been a godsend, both when I was WTTC my first and now my second 🙂
On top of that, I find that collecting baby stuff here and there (like clothes, cloth diapers) makes me feel better..it’s preparation! lol
Post # 4
@urchin: I think my DH would have a fit if i started buying things (although i keep looking on websites etc sizing up prams/cots etc) I have a good knowledge of what i will need (I already have a 4yo) but i would be scared to buy anything as i have also had a mc and would leave it as late as possible although if that works for you then great =]
Do you happen to know of any UK based forums for waiting to TTC? long shot i know but dont ask dont get lol x
Post # 5
You don’t. You keep thinking about it and obessessing over it until you slowly go insane…
At least that is how i feel lol
Post # 6
Yep thinking and obsessing til you go insane, it’s like wedding planning – remember how that consumed your thoughts for the whole time you were planning? Yeah? Ok now TTC is like that but with no definite end in sight *sigh* haha
but seriously how I get thru the process – I have started charting – it makes me feel like I have some element of control (plus its cool to see the graphs but I’m a geek hehe) and when AF arrives I go crazy and do everything I can’t do while pregnant – usually involves booze, takeout and/or soft serve ice cream.
Post # 7
@ashleyr0512: hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. So true.
Post # 8
@ashleyr0512: “You don’t. You keep thinking about it and obessessing over it until you slowly go insane…
At least that is how I feel lol“
Post # 9
@bouncybee: There are a lot of UK girls at JustMommies. I’m not sure of any other place.
JM is really friendly though!
Post # 10
I focus on spending more time with family and my husband.
I work with many pregnant women daily, so it’s really difficult to do that and be waiting to TTC.
I also watch way too many comedies and eat way too much ice cream.
Post # 11
Travel! Do exciting and wonderful things you wouldn’t be able to do easily with a baby! We have a travel bucket list – this year is Antarctica/Argentina, next year is Africa. We also try and live it up weekend-warrior style with hikes and day trips to cool places around the Bay Area!
Post # 12
@bouncybee: I HATED the waiting to TTC!
I got off BC in April, we started TTC in May, and I got my BFP on June 2nd!
And I worked with infants, so it was a little easier for me. I had unlimited access to babies to cuddle and feed… And sniff… Ssh…
Post # 13
That’s only a couple months! Enjoy your life. Travel, sleep in, drink! Think of all the things you can do that your friends with kids can’t. Or that you can’t do when you’re pregnant. I want kids, but I like to drink and travel on a whim. So that helps. 🙂 When my brother makes a snide remark about my car or our vaation I say “Hey, you have a kid, I have nice things and vacations.”
Post # 14
I’m not. I am completely and utterly ‘crazy while waiting to ttc’ and it can’t come around quick enough. Everyone else’s suggestions are great. The ttc boards here and charting, OPKs and temping are the only things that help. I also have a ‘baby box’ full of neutral purchases for a newborn – I shop when I feel stressed, lol!
Post # 15
I’m having the same issue- waiting till the spring till DH is ready. I’m trying to get in as much snuggle time with my 5 month old nephew as I can! Also trying to lose weight so I can be super healthy when the time comes. It’s hard though when baby fever hits- I think if we all knew we’d def have babies whenever we wanted we would all be able to just relax until it happened, not knowing when is the hard part!
Post # 16
Yeah, I don’t know if coping is the right term for anxiously waiting and constantly thinking about it. I am a planner so I have a variety of baby-related shopping lists created on my amazon private lists. I have budgets set forth so we can buy a house with a second bedroom. I make various gifts for the many pregnant friends and babies in my life. I shop for real estate that will fit the second bedroom requirement. I do think using the time we have left to be as healthy as possible both physically and financially is a great thing, but damn I’m getting impatient.