- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I feel pretty sad…part of me just doesn’t care anymore. We’ve been togeher 9.5 years (most of this was long distance) until I moved from TN to Canada to be with him. He claimed it would be hard for him to move because his family would not have supported him (his mom told him if he ever left that she would have a heart attack and die). no joke. His dad threw a fit and said if he left, to never call the house again. He comes from a big family (Croatian) where everyone knows everyone and you are super close. Long story short, it would just be too hard for him to live with me in the states being away from all these important people.
Fine. I’m also sad because I feel like I am the driving force for our relationship….after I coerced a proposal out of him, it has been almost 6 months later and we haven’t done anything,….talked to the priest, sought out a venue, ANYTHING. I feel pretty low….like most of you on this board have an active spouse providing inputor sayign “oh hey honey, wanna check out some venues or what?”” ANYTHING.
He jsut doesn’t seem to do anything proactive at all…I used to plan all our trips together, but then I asked him to plan one for us where he organized everythign and it just never materialized….he’s been to Malta for 2 weeks with his friends, Vegas for a week with his brother, and recently went to Chicago/Green Bay with some friends for the last weekend. The thing that really made me sad was that I wanted to meet these friends (whom I never have gotten introduced to), so I’m waiting at the terminal with a rose and a chocolate bar for my guy, I see him, wave out….he looks like he’s embarassed for some reason and I asked him where his friends were and he texted them, and they said they were already on their way going home….how messed up is that? 🙁 He later goes on to show me his pics from the football game, and I guess I scrolled to far because there were 3 identical pics of a receipt that he had which had a girl’s email address on it. Apparently the story went that the cashier was making eyes at him and wrote her email address on top of the receipt. When he was at home, he showed me the receipt, but tore off the top part with her address and put in the garbarge. Why oh why then did he have 3 pics of the damn thing. His reasoning was that he wanted to proved that this had existed (proof he had gotten hit on) but I said the original receipt was proof enough….why would you keep it in your phone unless you wished to contact her. And then he said “Oh yeah, that would be so slick of me, keep that obvious piece of evidence in there”….so wtf? Just all this stuff together has my head in a jumble. It just doesn’t make sense to me……does anyone have any kind of experience being in a relationship like this? He always says the right things, but never seems to follow through with actions. ..