(Closed) how do you deal with job stress?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do you think that trying yoga or working out would help you to be less stressed out?  If it is getting really bad, you might want to consider going to a therapist to deal with those emotions so you don’t take them out on your friends and family.

Post # 4
Member
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I am so with you on this. I hate myself for snapping at FI, friends, and family because of work related stress. Sometimes it helps to just be by myself when I feel like this, so I physically can’t take it out on anyone. Or I channel my frustration into planning for the future. 

 

Post # 5
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I get really stressed at work, I go for a run or run on the treadmill when I get home.  Pounding on the pavement while I imagine telling people off helps some, plus there’s the added benefit of the exercise.  When I REALLY get down tho, I remind myself that as much as I might not like my job at the moment, I’m lucky to at least have one and that I can’t afford not to with the wedding coming up.  That’s helped to put things in perspective for me.  

At my last job tho…when it was nice out, I’d tell FI (or BF at the time) that I wanted to go to a driving range to hit around some balls.  It’s quite therapeutic taking a whack at those things imagining they are someone’s head lol

Post # 6
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381 posts
Helper bee

Yoga, absolutely.  I need to start again, because I am the EXACT same position as you are. 

I have 6 more months to go though, before I am free.

Post # 7
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee

yoga helps me and so does “job hunting”  I tend to find a ton of great jobs and apply or if there aren’t any, then I appreciate my job/salary that much more!  Is there a reason you can’t leave?

Post # 8
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ahh, yes. FI and I both went through this as well recently. We live in NYC too and have stressful jobs in the insurance industry. On top of that, the companies we worked for were the 2 worst in our industry according to almost everyone.

He was always upset and took it out not on me, but it would prevent us from having fun at times. He was too consumed with how stressed at work he was. I put my foot down and made him apply to another company that I knew was good to work for as I’m in marketing and know all. They loved him and hired him instantly, he’s happy as a clam now wearing sweaters instead of suits, getting in after nine instead of before 8 and leaving right at 5 instead of staying to 7 or 8. And his coworkers speak to him! And laugh!

Shortly after, I did the same thing. I was so fed up with my company and all the pressure on me to perform beyond what was even possible that I just shot my resume around. Turns out, one old colleague is the head of the department of the company I now work for and hired me in an instant, gave me a 20% bump and instant quality of life improvement! We are both so much happier.

I don’t know if it’s that easy for you, but you might want to try looking around or a career change. Money only goes so far – you have to be happy or at least tolerant of your job. PM me if you have any questions about insurance!

Post # 9
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I am right there with you, Kittyachi. I snapped BIG time this weekend b/c I was so stressed about having to come back to work without any more short weeks or holidays to get me through it… and I just lost it. I honestly don’t know the answer for this, I’m seeking it as well. I asked my boss today for a change of hours (7-4 ilo 8-5) so at least I can miss traffic and remove that stress (I live the furthest away and Atlanta traffic is a nightmare!). She actually said yes which is awesome, but I know it will cause the tension between me and my high strung, jealous out of her gourd coworker to worsen.

I’m definitely looking for another job, but there’s nothing out there. I’m going to play trivia with friends tonight, I play video games when I get home, watch TV, exercise, whatever. Nothing really seems to help, because even if I finally relax at home, by the time i get to work the next day, I’m tense and by the time my evil cohorts pull a few moves, I’m in tears or ticked the hell off.

Sigh. I don’t know what we do.

Post # 10
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

I wish I could do yoga or exercise to relax…it used to help me a lot in college when I was stressed. That and cooking 🙂

Now I get home so freaking late every day that I have absolutely no time and energy for anything. Sigh…

Post # 12
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, it seems as though I’ve developed TMJ and some other not fun habits due to sitting at a desk all day. I dream of escaping and days where I have human interaction and how “someday” i’ll have it all!

In the meantime, I work out. A lot, when I’m not in classes. I start school in like, 2 weeks so i’m just enjoying the 4o hour weeks right now. It feels “social” to me to work out (yes even tho i talk to no one) and helps curb my appetite so i don’t just come home and polish off a pint of ice cream b/c i feel like moping and dragging my feet. 

I’m not a snappy person with DH, but I do get moody and mopey and “bummy”. A glass of wine and a solid half hour of watching whatever i want on tv (even if it’s stupid like Bridezillas, ie NOT sports or football recaps) helps. A hot shower, slathering on my favorite lotion, putting slippers on…really, i cherish the little things.

I don’t feel any sense of accomplishment anymore b/c I just don’t care. And that “don’t care” atittude is turning into nonchalance and sort of a crappy attitude towards other people. I’m becoming spiteful inside and I don’t like it.

Post # 14
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Me three.

I actually slammed my office door today, after someone pissed me off. Three times, actually. I’m becoming as immature as they are!! I’ve GOT to get out of here!!!

Post # 16
Member
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah. That’s why I need to change careers. I feel SO BAD and guilty and ungrateful complaining, though. Tons of people would kill for a cushy engineering job (flex time, sit at a desk, not very stressful, etc), particularly one that pays so well =(. It’s not…rewarding I guess? And even when I DO have accomplishments and do good things, it’s not the kind of rewarding feeling I need…does that make sense?

@laylabelle, want me to come over and kick some butt with you? We can put their staplers in jello =]

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