- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hello everyone, I am new to Weddingbee but I think I will be using it a lot due to my recent engagement.
I expected a lot of things with my engagement, but one thing I did not expect would be people to be opening against our engagement and marriage. Expecially who the people are.
I’ve been engaged now for a month and our families and most friends are thrilled. However 2 close friends, 1 mine, and 1 of my Fiance are openly (and sometimes rudely) against our marriage. My friend, who I admit I am not particularly surprised by her disaproval, is against my engagement and marriage because she disaproves with dating almost altogether! She is extremely feminist (as am I and my Fiance, but still do not see anything wrong with getting married) and has never been in a serious relationship, infact she has not been in any type of relationship in 3 years! Everytime I ask her what she things she tells me: “It’s your life and you can do what you want with it, even if you just want to throw it away!” This is very upsetting for me since she was so supportive of me and my Fiance before we got engaged. I’m not sure how to deal with this, especially since she will be one of my bridesmaids!
The other difficult person is my FIs friend. He is a life long bachelor in his 50’s now (we’re in out mid 20’s). First he started making jokes referrencing movies where friends stop their friend from marrying a horrible woman. At first, he would always follow with “I’m kidding!” But he still does this everytime I see he and it’s to the point where I am hearing stories when my Fiance gets home where his friend is trying to get my Fiance to hit on other women or trying to convince my Fiance to call of the engagement. I know and trust my Fiance that I know he would not listen to the friend. But this is getting extremely out of hand! Obviously confronting this person is just going to reinforce his beliefs that marriage is about getting ‘tied down’ or that I’m a crazy b***h.
Have you ever dealt with any difficult people like this? How did you deal with them? How can I deal with them?