How do you deal with the after visit blues?

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@NK2012:  When my now FI and I did long distance in our early relationship, I used to keep a bottle of his cologne around the house, and a couple shirts….so when he left i always had his sent (which sounds kinda creepy typed out….but it was a source of comfort)….and I would always wear a spra or 2 of his cologne in the first few days after he visited, and then when he left luckily i was in school so i was always swamped with stuff to do, and then i would try and go out with girlfriends, and just keep busy and text myself into an overage on my phone bill….after about the first 3 days he left it would get a little easier….but once wehad done itfor about a year i found a routine to help cope…

Post # 4
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39 posts
Newbee

@kansas_nurse:  I did that too!! I kept one of my boyfriend’s shirt that smelled like his cologne. I sleep in it and it helps me fall asleep. 

As as for the after visit blues I honestly try to keep busy. Easier said than done. My boyfriend and I are long distance as well (different countries) and the last time I saw him I cried so hard when my plane was taking off it was so embarrassing lol. The days go by so slow when you dwell on things so just keep busy with friends, hobbies, work, school etc. and countdown to your next visit (if you know when it is). Work, gym, my book clubs and girlfriends keep me occupied. Doesn’t mean that sometimes I don’t wanna scream and cry though. 

Also lots of FaceTime helps. As for the future, it sucks not to know when you guys will be permanently together again. Having no date to look forward to makes it harder but that’s out of your hands so don’t think about it too much. Focus on the good things and allow yourself to feel sad a few times, nothing wrong with that. 

Post # 5
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@NK2012:  We are only 2 hours apart so I see him every weekend. However it still isn’t the best, I miss him during the week and want to have a normal relationship like my friends do. The best thing for me was when we got engaged, we were able to set a date right away and I can always think to myself that by that time I will be living with him.

Post # 6
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2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My husband (back when he was my boyfriend) would always leave me a little something when he’d leave (a note, one of his shirts, etc.) and that would help a little.

Post # 6
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

NK2012:  the after visit blues, ive been home for a week, from a visit. and its finally started to hit again. another month… maybe he will be back. people keep asking me and we have no idea how long this job will take. hes a days travel away. i just need to keep busy and tell myself every day i get threw is closer to him. that in the end we will be cuddled up on the couch watching tv when he comes back.  he was gone a month and a half till i went to visit. luckily work said it was fine but when i go visit, i have to help with the job. its driving me nuts and him even more nuts. cant wait till this is over and the worst little things are happening, and causing the job to take longer. ugg. i actually started baking and making him a box to send. so maybe it helps keeping myself busy by making somethign for him.

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