Post # 1
K, so stay with me here-
1. My family is in Upstate New York
2. My fiance/myself/most of my friends/some family live in NYC (3 hours from Upstate)
3. My fiance’s family and friends (meaning friends wives and girlfriends) live in Connecticitut (about 1.5 hours from NYC and 3 hours from Upstate, where my wedding will be held)
And now, my Mother, who is throwing this shindig would like to know where to hold the festivities…. and I don’t know! NYC is most likely more expensive but I want it here. Albany just doesn’t seem right because there are the least amount of people up there and the wedding itself is there so I don’t want to make everyone trek there twice. And we don’t know crap about Connecticut. Where should it be?
Post # 3
I think you should have it in NYC…there are so many options to chose from in NYC and more for your guest to do!
But if the traveling becomes a problem can’t you have several wedding showers!! I’m in the same situation… I live in RIC, VA and fam is in VA BCH and Fi’s in NJ!! So I’m having 3 different showers thrown by different people!! Could that be an option? They don’t have to be extravagent, just even a nice dinner somewhere where your the celebratory!
Post # 4
That’s true! I could do 3 showers, but that’s only if I have 3 people or 3 groups of people that would be willing to host the showers. I don’t really know how to suggest it without seeming high maintenance though…
Post # 5
If 3 showers isn’t an option. Then I would have it in NYC. It seems that it’s in the middle more or less and for those that drive in, it wouldn’t be too far. Also, I would talk to your FMIL because she might want to have a shower for you too. In which case, you could have 2 showers.
Post # 6
have it in nyc.. there are ways to do it on a budget – do you have friends w/ a big apt or access to a party room in their building?
Post # 7
This is so funny…I’m in a very similar situation. Wedding is in Albany (where me and FI grew up) so our families are there but most of my/our friends are in NYC/CT/Boston.
We’ll be having the shower upstate because I know my mom would NEVER go for having it in the city.
But if your mom is willing to do it, I think it’s a good idea to have it in NYC. People coming from Albany could just take Amtrak, or drive to Pok and take Metro-North.
BTW, I saw a bridal shower at the Shake Shack in Madison Square Park that looked like a blast :o)
[also, were getting married in the same city a week from each other!]
Post # 8
hotchildinthecity- that’s so funny! I’m sure we’re not the only ones but so strange to find someone else on here doing the same thing! Let me know if you need any assistance, not sure that I’ll be helpful but its worth a shot.
Oh! And the chances of my Mother agreeing to a NYC shower are pretty low. As most people know, here in the good ol’ city that never sleeps there’s not a lot of options for inexpensive parties, that I know of that is.
Post # 9
I would have a more traditional shower in NYC that your mom throws where it is gift giving and light finger foods and punch. Then since your FI’s friends/wives are in Conn. then I’d do a couple’s shower where you do cocktails with them. That way you can spend time with both groups.
MY FI’s friends are in Dallas. We’ve talked about doing an informal couples shower where we just say join us at *** for drinks to celebrate our marriage. No gifts required and no host but ourselves picking a place and time