Post # 1
I have 3 daughters. One is 16 from a previous relationship. My other 2 daughters are 18 months and 3 months old. I am marrying the father of my 2 youngest next month. I would like them to get my rings when I pass away… I think…
Are rings normally left to daughters, or do you give them to your grandsons?
I will essentially have 3 rings to give away. I will have my black diamond e ring. My wedding band/enhancer and then a black diamond wedding band.
So what would you do?
I would love to read your stories to of how you aquired your rings from family?
Post # 3
I don’t have children so I don’t have anyone to pass mine onto. My family tend to leave their rings to other female relatives. I have never heard of rings being given grandsons. I think it’s lovely to leave your rings to each of your daughters.
Post # 4
I have 1 biological daughter and two bonus daughters. My biological daughter is getting 100% of my diamonds with the understanding to pass them to female legacies only.
Post # 5
I also have 2 bonus daughters. I didn’t really think i was going to leave them any jewlery. I figured that they would have some from their own mother and or grandmother.
I hope that isn’t interpreted as rude.
Post # 6
I’m not married yet and no children but I would definetely leave my ring(s) to my children. My guy friend proposed his fiance with his mother’s e-ring and I think that’s super sweet. The fiance loved it. I think my mom will be leaving all her jewerly with me (I’m the only daughter) and I will do the same if I have daughters. I think it’s more of a passing on the legacy thing and I’m sure your daughters will appreciate it.
Post # 7
@kazarmo: I agree to pass them on to your children for themselves or there wives if you have sons
Post # 8
All family jewelry goes through the girls in my family, and that’s the way I’ll keep it unless I have only sons.
I actually had my grandmother’s diamond remade into a right hand ring. I love having it.
Post # 9
We don’t have anything like this in my family, really. I guess my grandma got some of her mom’s jewelry, but they only had girls. Not sure what happened to it, though. My rings will probably go to whichever of our future children is oldest/wants them.
Post # 10
@kazarmo: My mom is leaving me her rings. She has 3 daughters and a son and I’m getting the sparkles.
Post # 11
It will vary per family. I’d say it’s very important to avoid favoritism or the impression of favoritism, but in some families, I can see that blatently 🙁
In my family, women wear their engagement and wedding ring until they pass away, so it would be offered to the first couple in the family who is getting married after that matriarch passes away. That couple may already have other plans, in which case, it would be saved and offered to the next couple in the family to marry, after that.
Divorce rings are generally not desired in my family. We would just get rid of them.
Oh, and since a matriarch may not know which couple will ultimately wear her ring, she would likely will it to her eldest daughter, or, if she has no daughters, her eldest son, with instructions as to how it should be offered to couples in the family about to marry (typically the couples offered it will be grandkids of the matriarch).
Post # 12
I have 2 daughters and a son…I plan on just dividing equally…or as equal as I can 🙂 my mother also has lots of jewelry that my sister and I will be getting (hopefully not for a LONG time) so, that will be divided equally between my kids also.
Post # 13
@kazarmo: Funny, SO and I just talked about this same topic, hypothetically(not even sure we want a child and if we have one, it will just be one). I think my ring (which is SO’s grandmother’s) would go to our daughter if we had one but if we had a son … I feel weird about that (what if he gets divorced, etc??), and I think it’s probably complete bias that I have this intuition!! Huh. Something to continue thinking about!
Post # 14
In our family, there generally ends up being a clear “jewelery person”. So, for example, my grandmother left the bulk of her jewelry to my mother and my mother will be leaving it to me. In order to avoid favouritism, the other children received things equal in value that they cherished more than others (collectibles, pocket watches, antique furniture or vehicles, real estate, etc.).
I think as children grow up it becomes clearer who should inherit which things. My sister would be the eldest daughter, but her interest does not lie in jewelry at all, so it would make no sense to leave pieces to her that she might not value the way I would (nor would it make sense to leave other collectibles to me which I would not value the way my sister does).
Post # 15
My maternal grandmother owned a lot of jewelery due to my grandfather’s sister being a jeweler. She passed when I was 12 and she had 3 daughters and 4 granddaughters. My mother and her sisters spoke with my grandfather about who should receive what however my Nana and I were very close and since she knew she was dying she gifted those pieces she wanted me to have prior to her death. I received a fire opal set, that I’ll wear on my wedding day, and a black pearl set. She was buried with her wedding band though adn the eldest granddaughter received her diamond engagement ring.
My mother has passed and I am an only child so I inherited all of her jewelery including her wedding set (soldered) which is now my engagement ring.
Post # 16
My grandmother left me her ring. I like the idea of giving it to a girl because you know she will be the one wearing it and that its kept close to the family. I feel its safer that way instead of a grandson giving it to his girl. A grand daughter might appreciate it more. My grand mother got an anniversary ring and that is the one she left me. what happened to her actual wedding ring, i dont know. but i think this one ended up being a lot fancier. I have an older brother and sister (half but never felt that way, are really close) but because this was my blood grandma she left it to me when i was five. I would say that the rule of thumb would be to give it to your oldest daughter though.
If you have three maybe give them all one each?