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Most of my stress is self-imposed (I'm a procrastinator and think secretly I love the stress!), so I really have quite a bit of control over a lot of it. I deal with it a couple of different ways. The first is to actually do something and be productive. Marking things off my "to do" list always helps with the stress. I also take time to think about/do other things instead of constantly focusing on the wedding. This has meant I've had to delegate and give up some control over details, but in the end I think it will be a lot better. We're about 4 months out, so we'll see how I feel when we get closer! Take time out to enjoy the process, and take breaks from all things wedding once in a while. Good luck to you!
I'm planning the wedding myself as well with a lot of DIY projects. Here is some of my suggestions:
Delegate: One very stressful week it dawned on me that my FI's only involvement was being my occasional opinion person. He's a web guy by day so I knew it was time to get our website going and asked him to work on that. I also asked him to be in charge of hiring the JP and look for some local vacation deals for our mini moon. I have had to remind him about the JP a few times but putting him in charge of projects that I didn't feel I needed a ton of control over has helped.
Excercise: We are also back to our morning work out schedule 4 days a week. We hate crawling out of bed early but we both come up with so many excuses at night not to go. This way we start the day refreshed and get it out of the way instead of coming home at night to, what to make for dinner, what wedding projects are there to do and getting to the gym.
Step Away: I also think literally taking time away from the computer/away from wedding planning helps. Every day it seems that I come up with 20 new things/projects/ideas to Google and I can literally spend from 5:30pm-11pm on the computer perusing all this stuff - I make excuses that I have to find the best deals for my money but it can become overwhelming.
To Do list/checklist: Being six months away from the wedding, I finally made the 'to do' list but even that was scary and stressful. My friend suggested breaking it down into what I need to do each month and I think that will be so much better. And maybe from that list you will find even more things you can delegate.
I deal with stress by:
I deal with in not such a good way. Well it starts out good. I for a walk, go to the gym, make lists, talk it out with my mom or MOH. But when it all builds up, I meltdown and end up curled in a ball on my FI lap crying that I have ruined the wedding, not so productive.
I haven't really felt much stress yet, but I think that's because I am always too laid back. I do go to the gym and take naps. I'm sure closer to the wedding date I'll be feeling more stress, so I'm planning on just walking away from wedding tasks for an hour or two (or the whole day) and focusing on something else for a little bit. Maybe I'll knit or go for a run.
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: tahoma; font-size: 13px">I totally agree with MyFavorite on this one...my stress is also often self-imposed because i can be a procrastinator about getting tasks done. sometimes, however, it seems i procrastinate because i'm so stressed and don't know where to begin. thats when i get a grip (after crying to my FI of course), sit down and write a list of weekly tasks..nothing major that will be too overwhelming or unrealistic. I also try to remember that i will get things done and done well. (the perfectionist in all of us though with weddings is sometimes easier said than done.) also working out and eating right and feeling good about yourself helps you stay in a positive frame of mind... try to relax and tackle one thing at a time.
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Being DIY bride and planning the wedding myself can be extremely stressful. With just about 2 1/2 months till the big day the stress is in full force. So how do you deal with your stress?