- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So I moved in with him after he proposed though we haven’t had an official engagement party and not planning on having one because it just cost more, and his family is not here so we will do everything same wedding weekend once we have the wedding
So He and I are very different. I am moderate in pretty much anything, he is for sure is a clean freak and I hate that he would check on me, the floor after I finish cooking or during the time I cook. He can’t cook and I can’t eat his cooking and he loves that i am a great cook so we divide the house chores like this
– I cook and clean in the kitchen area and do the dishes for dinner, and any other time whoever eats that person should just clean their dish.
– He does the laundry because he doesn’t like the way i do it and keep complaining that I din’t do it right and the clothes dont smell as good.
– The bathroom needs to be cleaned once a week on the weekend and we alternate and take turn to do it
-I pay for utility and buy all housewares and miscelaneous and foods, ect
– He pays rent, (we are living in apartment, and are building a 4000sqf house right now, due to finish toward end of year)
I can’t stand that he always picks on me on how I hang stuffs or put stuffs up if I don’t do it the way he wants. I feel like I always have to ask his permission or we will argue because he get annoyed if it’s not his way.
Sometime I do moe and sometime he does more, but I always cook lots of good food for us both, healthy and good. When he does little more then he gets upset and say he is now my bitch, WTH.
I am active and atheltic so i work out and he doesn’t. he is not fat, in okay shape, but could be better you know. Lately I keep telling him let’s work out to look good for our wedding, and so he goes from time to time. I offer to buy him membership at my gym, he doesnt want to so I train him at the apartment gym because I am a part time trainer, full time project manager. he hates when I make him does a certain work out that I think is important then we argue….it goes on and on.
he is good at saving and i am not.
He nags about things and I just ignored, if i snap at him, he would get upset at me for days even if i say sorry he would still ignore me and refuse to talk to me. I know he is more sensitive than I am. I feel like I am a man and he is little too soft for a man sometime.
I am in very good control when we fight, I try not to say anything mean then will regret later, but he is hot-tempered, he would say lots of mean things then just kiss sorry later, and I hate that. I am not the person that hold grudges, and be mad at someone for more than a day.
Although our wedding got postponed due to some church issues, but we already registered for premartial classes at church so lastnight was our first time attending classes.
The priest asked the whole class that if we think we understand the person that we are about to marry yet? and he aksed another question like do we think our mate now is perfect and ideal and we can’t absolutely think that we will be happier with anyone else. He asked if we ever asked our parents if hey can do it all over again, will they still choose to marry each other?
Of course, I never asked my parents that but my older sisters who are married, they always say that if they can do it again, they would not marry their husbands, they dont have abusive relationship or anything.
Then I asked myself some of those questions the priest asked, I know my FI probably did the same, i dont think he is the absolute perfect or ideal, but he is reaonable enough although sometime he annoyes the heck out of me, but there is no such thing as perfect. Do I think i can find a better man? I probably can, but i do not want to keep on jumping from one person to another because I am also not perfect neither. No one is.
These questions really makes me think a lot, and with my FI and I are like two different persons from two different planets living in the same house….there was good time, but there was also very rough time too…..I wouldn’t marry someone just like me because I like to spend and if we both love to spend, we will go broke, but being with someone that is 100% different from you is also hard too.
What is your story with you and ur FI?