Post # 1
We are having a Korean-Vietnamese wedding. Now that I have been to a few Korean weddings I start to worry a little bit. My experience is that the Korean weddings usually last 1.5-2 hours including the ceremony!! They usually focus on the ceremony, eat and leave. In most cases there is no dancing involved. I was a little bit shocked.
The timeline that I have in mind is from 4pm to 10pm. My parents in law were asking me: why so long? =( They and their friends are not used to that.
Now we are having guests coming all the way from Europe and the easts coast (we are having our wedding close to LA) and I want to avoid by all means that people start to leave early. We are starting at 4pm are having a cocktail hour after that.
So what do you do to entertain your guests? I know most of our guests are not interested in the dancing part and centerpiece games. So that is not really an option.
– We are having Korean dancers do a dance (5-10 minutes)
– We are doing the Korean Paebaek (traditional ceremony) (15 minutes)
I don’t think this is enough =(. Any suggestions? I am trying to look for something more fun and interactive.
Post # 3
We are trying to counter a similar issue. We are going to put a Dance Card at each place setting that lists the songs and has a place to write in who you are going to dance with. We’re hoping this will get our guests excited and pencil in enough dances to pack the dance floor. This is an old tradition from the 1920’s that is not common anymore so maybe the novelty will inspire our guests to participate. We are also going to put a note in it that says "Please join us in bidding farewell to the newlyweds at 11 PM at the main entrance." to encourage people to stay until the end so we can do a big send-off.
Post # 4
how are you doing the food? if you are doing a cocktail hour plus a seated dinner, then people will probably stay at least through the entree. A lot of ppl break up the courses with dancing/toasts/games in between. For example, cocktail hour would start at 6 and last till 7. at 7, everyone gets seated. the newlyweds + bridal party gets announced. first dance. then maybe at like 7:30/7:45, appetizer gets served. then do another 1/2 hour of dancing, then serve your entree, etc, etc.
Post # 5
I had a lot of Chinese guests at my wedding and most elderly Asians don’t typically dance. They just sit there and watch. Other than my first dance, I also performed later in the evening. We also had indoor fireworks when the Venetian table was presented. We spread out the visual cues over the course of 5 hours with the dancing so everyone is entertained. Outside the reception area, I had lots of pictures, signs, and stuff to give away so that there is something to "float most people’s boat".
Post # 6
I can see how older folks or those who don’t want to dance would leave early if you turn the place into a disco – maybe you could think about having music that would have more appeal across the board. We are having a band that plays blues, jazz, and Sinatra-style cocktail hour music; my sister did the same. It lets people of all ages dance, as the music is familiar to the older folks and amenable to their style of dance, and also allows people to just socialize through the music should they prefer not to dance. I have been to several receptions with this type of music as the only entertainment, and haven’t seen any great amount of people leaving early. Of course, that also depends on what you think is early – we are starting our reception with cocktails at 5:30, dinner at 6:15, and the band will stop playing at 10:00. I think that if the party goes on until midnight, you are going to lose the older folks no matter what you do. If your reception does go late, maybe you can plan on changing the style of music to something younger after about 9:30, when a lot of older people are probably going to leave anyway.