How Do You Even Begin To Dress Your Men???

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

1. They do carry Big and Tall sizes.

http://www.menswearhouse.com/big-and-tall-mens-clothing

2. http://westerntux.com/Rental-FAQ-s/what-are-the-differences-between-a-tuxedo-and-a-suit.html

Tuxedo- note the satin lapel, pleated shirt and bow tie                                                          

Suit

 

Do you want a formal look like a tuxedo? Or are you interested in something more casual like a vest, shirt, pants and tie?

 

 

3. Generally speaking, the darker the color the more formal it is. Often the wedding party is coordinated by the men wearing a tie that includes the wedding colors-more specifically the bridesmaid dresses, but make it more interesting by choosing a striped or paisley tie. Try not to choose a solid color vest and tie that match the dresses. It can look  like escapees from the prom.

Remember if you do choose a tux, the tradional black tie is perfectly appropriate, no matter what color the BM’s are wearing. The men can wear a boutonniere that is in the wedding colors.

4. Usually the groom,accompanied by a friend,best man, relative or you, chooses the groomsmen’s wardrobe, notifies the men re where and when they need to go to get measured. Each store will tell you when  they need to pay.

Post # 4
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3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Equine_Breeder:  First of all, the men should dress themselves.  They should not be dressed – please note that we are calling them men, not boys, puppies, or dolls.  That being out of the way:

With your type of wedding, you might well want suits, not tuxedos.  The below is mostly about tuxedos though, since I like talking about them 🙂

What are you, and the bridesmaids, wearing?  What time is your wedding ceremony, and how late will it continue?  That will help me reccomend something suitable for the groomsmen.

I’m not particularly familiar with Men’s Wearhouse, so I can’t tell you about their big & tall.  But, they are a low end menswear retailer.  There’s nothing wrong with that, or with shopping there, but I just wanted to make sure you know what type of clothing you’ll find there.

This site should answer most, if not all, of your questions about tuxedos:
http://www.blacktieguide.com – Read it before you go to the store, as they actually are not generally very knowledgable.

Tuxedos are actually evening formalwear, but it is common to wear them for day time weddings in North America.  A tuxedo is different from a suit in many styling details that make it more formal, as well as:

-They are normally black; they can be midnight blue.  If it’s another colour, it’s not actually a tuxedo, but more of a costume (with the exception of white dinner jackets that can be worn in warm weather, with black pants)

– It is always worn with a waist covering – either cummerbund or vest/waistcoat

– The lapels are faced with satin, grosgrain, or faille (all different types of silk)

– the seam on the trousers is also covered with a facing that matches the lapels.

It is also commonplace for vests and ties to match the bridesmaids.  Personally, I don’t care for it at all, and I think it makes the men look like accessories.  Traditional black tie will look good with anything the bridesmaids are wearing.

An advantage to regular suits is that purchasing one is often more practical, because a man can wear a suit quite often.  If you purchase, rather than rent, you can have the suit altered properly by a tailor, which all suits actually require.  A properly fitted and tailored suit looks much better than a rental.

I found my tuxedo vintage, and if you do some looking around, you can probably find something you like – I got mine for $140, and $50 for the vest.  Still need a shirt and bow tie.  But I plan to wear it afterward, and I really don’t like rented clothes.  Read the black tie guide before you go vintage shopping, and maybe take a friend who is familiar with clothes, fabrics, etc. so they can advise you on what’s a good deal.

If you’re coordinating the vests/ties with the bridesmaids, or doing them in a different colour the groom prefers, that goes with the overall colour scheme (for example for my sister’s wedding, my brother in law chose gold vests and ties for us) then it’s really wide open as to what you want the look to be.  The rental places have everything you could want.

There is also formal wear for the day time that is traditional, but it’s pretty much dead in North America.  But if you like it, you can do it – it’s in the supplemental section of the black tie guide.

 

Post # 5
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4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just sorta let FH handle it… He had a whole design in mind for what he wanted them to wear and I just fully relinquished any control and went “it’s your baby.” Maybe your FH has ideas?

Post # 7
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2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Equine_Breeder:   All very good questions.

 

Moores/Men’s wearhouse should fit big and tall.

 

A Tux is more formal then a suit. The easiest way to find the diffence between the 2 is the lapel. A proper tux should always have a silk/satin lapel (although the Vera wang black collection at Moores/Men’s wearhouse seems to not have a satin lapel).

 

As for matching, you can get the tie and pocket square to match the bridesmaids if you wish. It’s your wedding, the possibilites are endless really!

 

As for the rest, I have one good advice. Why don’t you give this job of dressing the men to your FI and you not worry about it too much? It’s his men, he can coordinate them. Then you don’t have to worry about the payments either. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@KingsDaughter:  

@Equine_Breeder:  

If it does not have a silk faced lapel of some kind, it is not truly a tuxedo, just a glorified suit, whatever Vera Wang says, imo.

Also note that notch lapels are not classic on a tuxedo jacket, but are basically a way for manufacturers to use their suit patterns to make tuxedos, streamlining manufacturing.  Peak lapels are the most formal, and shawl collar (which one never sees on a suit) are a less formal alternative, but equally “correct.”

But we now have … is that 3 votes? in favour of the groom dressing his own party. 🙂

Post # 9
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

FI doesn’t care.  So I have to dress him.  Ask your FI what he thinks. 

My plan all along has been to do traditional tuxes for all of them, but now I’m worrying that will seem too formal for the setting (outdoor, relatively casual) so I’m second-guessing myself.

We will be renting from Men’s Wearhouse as well.  I know the quality isn’t the best, but frankly, that’s not something I notice, as long as the fit isn’t blatantly off.  FI rented a suit from them for a friend’s wedding and looked fabulous 😉 He isn’t tall, but he does have a beer belly.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@loving_life:  Tell me more about your wedding!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Duncan:  Sorry for threadjacking, OP!

We are getting married in the Santa Cruz Mountains in the redwoods.  My bridesmaids are wearing knee-length maroon chiffon dresses; I will be in a formal wedding dress.  We will be having BBQ for dinner (caterers who bring a big bbq and cook onsite).

Cermony:

The benches will be lined up, not in a circle, and will have fabric covers in a matching brown so guests don’t snag their clothes.

Reception:

 

Will be decorated, replace the pillows, etc.

We will have 35-45 guests.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@loving_life:  There’s nothing inherently informal about the setting.  All depends on what kind of event you plan.  The BBQ might make it a bit informal, but it doesn’t have to.  What time do the ceremony and reception start?

Post # 13
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Duncan:  Ceremony is 4pm-4.30pm-ish, then we will take pics for a bit while they do a cocktail hour, then reception til 10pm.  It’s a Sunday night wedding but I don’t think any of our guests have to work the next morning.

Post # 14
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3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@loving_life:  So with a 4pm start time, spanning late into the evening, you’re totally safe doing tuxedos if that’s what you want.  Also you can, you know, eff the rules if you feel like it because you’re the bride and junk.

Hmmm.. how formal is your dress?  Would you call the bridesmaids dresses fancy cocktail dresses?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Equine_Breeder:  I talked to Men’s Wearhouse and they said the men can go in any time.  They are happy to take the order months in advance, but it can also be up til 2 weeks in advance.  Less than two weeks is a more expensive rush order.  They also assured me there wouldn’t be a difficulty with availability to have enough matching outfits 🙂

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