@Equine_Breeder: First of all, the men should dress themselves. They should not be dressed – please note that we are calling them men, not boys, puppies, or dolls. That being out of the way:
With your type of wedding, you might well want suits, not tuxedos. The below is mostly about tuxedos though, since I like talking about them 🙂
What are you, and the bridesmaids, wearing? What time is your wedding ceremony, and how late will it continue? That will help me reccomend something suitable for the groomsmen.
I’m not particularly familiar with Men’s Wearhouse, so I can’t tell you about their big & tall. But, they are a low end menswear retailer. There’s nothing wrong with that, or with shopping there, but I just wanted to make sure you know what type of clothing you’ll find there.
This site should answer most, if not all, of your questions about tuxedos:
http://www.blacktieguide.com – Read it before you go to the store, as they actually are not generally very knowledgable.
Tuxedos are actually evening formalwear, but it is common to wear them for day time weddings in North America. A tuxedo is different from a suit in many styling details that make it more formal, as well as:
-They are normally black; they can be midnight blue. If it’s another colour, it’s not actually a tuxedo, but more of a costume (with the exception of white dinner jackets that can be worn in warm weather, with black pants)
– It is always worn with a waist covering – either cummerbund or vest/waistcoat
– The lapels are faced with satin, grosgrain, or faille (all different types of silk)
– the seam on the trousers is also covered with a facing that matches the lapels.
It is also commonplace for vests and ties to match the bridesmaids. Personally, I don’t care for it at all, and I think it makes the men look like accessories. Traditional black tie will look good with anything the bridesmaids are wearing.
An advantage to regular suits is that purchasing one is often more practical, because a man can wear a suit quite often. If you purchase, rather than rent, you can have the suit altered properly by a tailor, which all suits actually require. A properly fitted and tailored suit looks much better than a rental.
I found my tuxedo vintage, and if you do some looking around, you can probably find something you like – I got mine for $140, and $50 for the vest. Still need a shirt and bow tie. But I plan to wear it afterward, and I really don’t like rented clothes. Read the black tie guide before you go vintage shopping, and maybe take a friend who is familiar with clothes, fabrics, etc. so they can advise you on what’s a good deal.
If you’re coordinating the vests/ties with the bridesmaids, or doing them in a different colour the groom prefers, that goes with the overall colour scheme (for example for my sister’s wedding, my brother in law chose gold vests and ties for us) then it’s really wide open as to what you want the look to be. The rental places have everything you could want.
There is also formal wear for the day time that is traditional, but it’s pretty much dead in North America. But if you like it, you can do it – it’s in the supplemental section of the black tie guide.