Post # 1
After being touched by Miss Lovebug’s post today about part of her very original ceremony script, my eyes grew green with envy and wished something exactly liked this can work for my own ceremony. While I don’t really see it happening and would feel guilty about being a copycat, I do wonder how all you bees (bloggers and readers alike) feel about your own ideas being reproduced by others. I’m definitely all for originality, but there are certainly some aspects of weddings where I am just drawing blank. I understand there are many mediums that are out there for this purpose, and benefit from it. But you all are volunteers, so I wonder if the feeling is different.
For those of you who are kind enough to share your great ideas, do you do so in hopes to inspire others to think outside the box like you have, or do you enjoy seeing the path you paved followed by others? Is imitation is the greatest form of flattery, or do you get a little peeved about someone stealing your intellectual property?
Post # 3
Personally, there are parts that I don’t want reproduced and because of that I won’t be sharing. I think everyone who puts something on the internet has the idea that some day, somebody might do something similar.
Anyway, I also loved Lovebug’s script. While not really the same idea, I’m going to work with our pastor to somehow get a vow renewal or something in there for the people who are already married. Something like "Now that X and X have shared their first kiss as a married couple, they would like to invite all of the married couples in the audience to share a kiss in remembrance and love of their wedding day." Or something, I just made that up.
Post # 4
This is a great question! Having just had our wedding, I’m trying to put together some blogs for my website as well as a knot bio simply to give back to the community that I drew so much inspiration from. I know I would not have been able to have the wedding we did without the inspiration I received from fellow brides and magazine. Our entire reception was inspired by one picture I saw in Martha.
I guess for me, the difference comes down to inspiration vs. imitation. I want to inspire people to be themselves and would feel sorry for someone who copied my stuff word for word because it was so *us* and i would like to see others have that oportunity. If I saw someone using our exact cookie jar tags (for instance) just inserting there initials instead of ours, I wouldn’t be so much peeved as I would feel sad for them. The process of letting things inspire you and finding out who you really are as individuals and as a couple is half the fun!!!
Now if someone saw our ceremony and wanted to take bits and piece to weave into theirs, I would be so proud that I had helped someone find something that was truely them. I’m interested to hear what other people thing though.
Post # 5
Personally, I see this site as place to help and be helped. This wedding planning business is kill or be killed (by vendors, family, and sometimes even fiance’s)
If you have some sort of reason for not wanting anyone esle to "imitate" any of your ideas, then I defintely would not post them on the internet.
Post # 6
I’m fine with people copying my ideas. After all, others inspired me first! I think that sharing with others is fun.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
If the words were taken out of a book, I dont think I’d be that bothered by someone copying my ceremony, but I do find it a bit odd to want to copy someone’s ceremony that they specifically handwrote for themselves. And not so much feel weird for the writer, but feel wierd for the copycat…this is your wedding, you know? Especially with something so intimately personal like a wedding ceremony, I think copycatting something is completely…uninspired.
But again, like ynichole pointed out, if someone doesnt want something copycatted, then they probably wouldnt post it on the internet. But look into your heart to realize that this is YOUR wedding ceremony, and you should take the time to come up with it in your own words, not some stranger’s words that are so intimately their own.
Post # 8
I agree with ynichole’s post – don’t post your ideas on the internet if you absolutely do not want others to imitate.
I know there are some super talented/unique people out there, but I think it’s weird when people get territorial thinking others "stole" their ideas…maybe it’s because most of my inspirations can be found in numerous magazines, websites, photos so I don’t feel like I’m stealing any one person’s idea…
I have the same reaction when brides are sad when they see their wedding dress on others…unless you had it custom made it’s likely other brides also liked the style and chose to buy the dress. Maybe I would feel differently if someone I knew purchased the same dress as me…but, in general, I agree that SHARING IS FUN
Post # 9
i agree with what everyone’s said so far. i will say, however, that if someone who i knew (in real life, not online) took my very creative and very original idea that i was super psyched about, had a very similar guest list to mine, was getting married before me, and passed the idea off as their own, i would probably be a little peeved. just being honest! i don’t think this is what you’re asking though.
Post # 10
I know that I have put together my inspiration for our ceremony and reception so far from lots of hours of going through photos on the internet, bits and pieces from many places, modified as FI and I like to make them what we want. I think you need to be careful, as already said, that you aren’t lifting ideas without changing them at all. Not so much because somebody you don’t even know who posted it on a board will care, or ever find out, but because you want your wedding to express at least a little of your own personality. I agree with bonniebelle; I don’t think I’d really care if you copied my ideas, but I would feel a little sorry for you if you didn’t seem to be inspired to change them to make them more your own.
Post # 11
I blog, but I’m not a "Bee" – I don’t post my stuff on my blog, or here for that matter for others not to get inspiration from it or want to use it. Actually I’m totally flattered by it.
I’ve had people ask me to design their invites, and ask to use my design and I’m thrilled!