(Closed) How do you feel about egg donation?

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it is a beautiful gift you could give someone, but I myself could not do it.  FH would also be very against it.  I can’t imagine having a person be half of me and a)never know them b) have them come find me one day and knowing I haven’t been in their lives….

 

I would also probably walk around looking at little curly haired children wondering what if all the time…. I admire people who can be that giving and generous… I just couldn’t emotionally handle it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Ultimately, I wouldn’t be comfortable donating my own eggs…but I think it is wonderful that you are considering the possibility!! I think it’s a wonderful, selfless thing to do. Also responding to see the other responses to this thread! 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I also started a thread similar to this awhile back.  If you don’t get the answers you are looking for, some of the bees that posted to my thread had some good answers as well:

 

Egg Donation

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

About ten years ago, I donated my eggs. I would be happy to answer any specific questions you may have with regard to the process. It wasn’t easy or fun. I had some complications after the aspiration of my eggs. I did not choose to do it again, although I was approached.

As far as the emotions of it, I think that’s more of a personal thing. I obviously don’t have a problem with the ethics of it, as I did it. Some of my family and friends had big problems with it, but that’s a whole other post. 

Again, feel free to PM me. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

im not against it, but i wouldnt consider it personally unless i already ahd my own family complete first. this is because i read a heartbreaking story in an engkish newspaper about a woman who did donate eggs. actually, i think it might have been for finanical rather than altruistic reasons but thats besides the point. then, when she later got married it turned out she couldnt have children (uterus problem, not egg related) And i remember her saying it was heartbreaking knowing there were kids out there from her that werent hers. and i think id be the same if it happened

i heard there are lots of side effects to the drugs too, thatd out me off

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

I wouldn’t do it for many reasons, but the most legitimate one is that I have a fear that any biological children I had would someday end up falling in love with this other child with my genes who’s out there. I’d be afraid of accidently being the cause of potential incest. My other reasons are things like fear of needles and petty things like that.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I REALLY needed the money I’d do it once maybe. I’d definitely do it for a sister probably not a friend though – I’d need it to be a complete stranger. I wouldn’t go around doing it a lot beacuse I wouldn’t want a bunch of my 1/2 children running around the world unbeknownst to me.  I also wouldn’t do it until I was done having my own children.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I looked into it once, but DH doesn’t like the idea of a biological child of mine out there running around. Too bad,  my eggs are good, still at my age lots of them and going to waste, when they could do so much for giving a woman her dream of having a child and creating a family. I personaly believe that it is noble, but a very personal choice not meant for everyone.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I offered to donate to my sister because she has had a hard time getting pregnant (one kid, one miscarriage, about 10 years trying).  She has a fear of needles so she declined my offer (but much appreciated it).

I looked into donating after my offer to her, thinking if I was willing to donate to her, maybe I should consider donating to someone else.  I filled out some paperwork, but never turned it in.  At the time, I would have been a highly compensated donor (based on things like education/test scores) and the financial gain was very tempting given grad school costs.  But, I didn’t think my family would like it, the medical procedure looked painful, and I was uncertain about risks to my future ability to conceive.  I also didn’t really want to have to tell a partner about it (which is required) so I would have only done it while single.  I was never single at the right time.  I also didn’t want to have to take the time off from work for it.  Now, I’m too old (33).

I’m glad there are women out there who will do it to make a childless couple have much wanted kids, but now that I have a bioethics background I worry about the financial incentives being too much and it being coercive as a result.

Note: I worry not at all about my kid falling for a half-sibling.  There are milllions and millions of people out there so the chances are beyond miniscule (particularly if you go out of state).  You can also learn their birthdates so you know, if not more like family names and such.

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