Post # 1
Lets say you get a Bridal Shower invite in the mail, and it says on the bottom of it “monetary gifts appreciated” under all the details of date/time/place.
I’m not asking if its right or wrong but, how do you feel?
ETA: Bride has not registered anywhere for the shower
ETA: I saw this on a bridal shower invite that was sent to FMIL, I went to the shower with FMIL and there were about 100 ladies there (holy crap! I know!) and only ONE actually brought a boxed gift! everyone else gave cards (which I’m assuming all had cash/cheques in them) AND the bride did NOT open the cards lol, there was a lunch and a bunch of games and that was it
Post # 3
@Stephville: I wouldn’t attend. Perhaps I would send a book on how to treat people as a gift.
Post # 4
@Stephville: its really rude and tacky. my reaction would at least be miffed, but my attendance depends on who it is. if its my best friend or my sister, i would still attend and give cash, but if its a friend i’m not as close with i’d probably not attend.
Post # 5
Cash gifts are one thing for a wedding and something else entirely for a bridal shower (in my opinion). I’d probably be too uncomfortable to attend and would send a card to the bride telling her I was sorry I had to miss her shower and wishing her the best.
Post # 6
@Stephville: I know that a lot of old-fashioned etiquette has gone out the window, but I think the majority can still say to this day that asking for money on invites is just really poor form. Also, wth? Isn’t a bridal shower an event for boxed gifts anyway, hence a registry is key? I thought weddings were where you gave cash?
Post # 7
@Stephville: That would irritate me. Depending upon how close I was with the person would dictate my attendence or not. Just dumb. I don’t get “money showers” and the only time I was invited to one I declined.
Post # 8
@TwoStatesBride: +1. My attendance would ultimately depend on my relationship with the bride.
What’s the point of a cash only shower, exactly? Are guests going to sit around and watch the bride count her money?
Post # 9
I would not be attending that shower.
Post # 10
@ImmaBee: yeah that’s my other concern, for sure. if you’re going to ask for monetary gifts at a shower, you shouldn’t be having a shower. you can have an engagement party and not ask for gifts, though.
Post # 11
If it were a close family member I’d call them up and tell them how rude it was. If not, I wouldn’t go. What – I’m supposed to shower you with $1 bills? No.
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: LOL I like that idea
@Stephville: I think this is so rude. It makes me want to get them nothing, personally.
Post # 13
This reminds me of the wedding I attended, where someone gifted the bride an etiquette book.
I would go, but I would bring either a nice set of towels or a nice stock pot or something, or some picture frames. What’s the point of even having a shower, when all you’re going to get is cash? What is she going to do, sit around opening the cards and announcing, “Aunt Martha gave us $50! Grandma Lois gave us $200! EffieTrinket OBVIOUSLY DID NOT READ THE INVITE and gave us this uglyass flowerpot shaped like a dolphin.”
Post # 14
@Stephville: Rubs me the wrong way. When I read that I think “No shit. Everybody loves money, McGreederson.”
Post # 15
rude! unless it was a very close friend/family member, i probably wouldn’t go since gifts are kinda the point of the shower. my brother and his fiancee don’t want to register for their wedding, but i think she’s still expecting/hoping to have a shower. we don’t know how to tell her that if she doesn’t register, then having a shower wouldn’t be appropriate.
Post # 16
Cash gifts esp for a wedding showe is no good. If a person doesn’t need gifts don’t have a shower easy!!