How do you feel about selective reduction?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t judge anyone.  For me I probably would terminate for a known disability. 

It’s difficult dicission for multiples.  You’re at a higher risk to loose all three in a miscarriage and they will most likely be premature.  Hope I never have to make these choices.  

Post # 3
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’ve fortunately never been in that situation but I can totally understand why some families would select that option. Planning a family (should) take a lot of thought and other things into account. If you have set aside the time, room, and budget for one child and you unexpectedly end up with 3 it’s not a good situation for the parents, existing siblings, or babies at all. That’s way too much to juggle if you’re not prepared for it. 

Post # 4
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

if you need an answer, i’m not a supporter of it.  

Post # 5
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m totally against abortion in all cases, so….not a fan.  If you get triplets, you get triplets (in the unlikely event they all make it term anyway).  Adoption is always available if it’s too much to handle.

However, since the majority of multiple pregnancies come from fertility treatments, I think it is extremely irresponsible to go into something that could cause multiples without being okay with that.  But, then again, I also think most of the ART fertility treatments are very problematic so it’s pretty black and white for me. 

Post # 6
2455 posts
Buzzing bee


I actually didn’t know about this until now.

The reasons the woman you mentioned listed are definitely eyeroll inducing, and I’d like to think I’d never make that decision myself. Hopefully, and most likely, will never have to. So I could say I’m personally against it, but I guess that’d depend on the situation.


Post # 7
481 posts
Helper bee

sandy85:  People’s reproductive decisions are none of my business. I’m about as pro-choice as one can get. Any reason a woman has for not wanting children, or not wanting more than a certain number of children, are valid – this includes wanting to keep one’s figure and one’s lifestyle (these are some of the reasons I’m childfree by choice). Everyone has different priorities in life. Diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks, and all.

Post # 8
2189 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m not one to judge. If that’s her decision, then fine. I’ve neven been in the situation so it’s hard to say what I would do. If I were pregnant with triplets I probably wouldn’t, but if it was like 6 or 7… I might consider it. But people who choose fertility treatments know that having multiples is a risk, so they should be prepared for that possibility.

Post # 9
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think I’ll have kids, if I found out I was pregnant today, I would abort.

If I changed my mind about wanting kids, I would selectively reduce triplets.  Probably not twins, although that would depend on my health.

Post # 10
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, if we were to have multiples we would make it work.  That said, I would be incrediably stressed if it happened.  We can afford one right now, and that is a bit of stretch.  Two would be a bit of a bind. 

I can’t say I would support someone who did that, but I could understand why.

Post # 11
2486 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sandy85:  I don’t think it’s an issue where you can simply say you are “for” or “against.” There are so many factors and medical issues (how many embryos are there? sets of twins sharing a sac/placenta?) Also the health of the mom- high blood pressure, blood clots, etc. You would need to consult with your doctor and your husband to make the right decision for you. I think that if I were to ever undergo IVF I would only transfer one or two embryos. However, if you have had unsuccessful rounds in the past I can see why you would choose to transfer multiple embryos to try to ensure success. Also, you could transfer two embryos, they could both split, and you could end up with quadruplets- and I would never judge someone choosing to selectively reduce in that situation. After experiencing a healthy singleton pregnancy and taking care of one easy(ish) baby (he’s three months old) I can’t imagine carrying four babies (which is very high risk pregnancy) and then caring for them all- especially if you had an unsupportive partner, couldn’t afford it, had shitty health insurance (time in the NICU isn’t cheap), and so on.

Post # 12
4402 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Impossible to say until you’re in that situation and being advised by doctors as to your (and the babies’) particular risks, etc. All I know is, selective reduction would be my absolute last resort. 

Post # 13
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

SexyCatLady:  Even though you are obviously a cat person and I am all about the doggies every time I see something you’ve written I like you more and more (in a non-stalker-y way)! My sentiments exactly. 

Post # 14
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m for people making their own decisions about how to manage their health, their bodies, and their family. Period.

Post # 15
481 posts
Helper bee

blondie_ems:  Awww, thanks!  The dogs in your profile pic are adorable, by the way – the little guy looks like my neighbor’s that I babysit!

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