How do you feel about speeches?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it doesn’t really matter who, I like when anyone who is well-spoken, succinct, and thoughtful says nice words about the couple! 2 minutes max – maybe no more than 4 people. My husband and I gave quick toasts to our guests and our parents, then both of our dads gave speeches. It was lovely. 

I did attend a smallish (50 people) wedding in which nearly all the friends of the bride and group gave spontaneous (tipsy) speeches before they cut the cake- it was like 15 people! But it was funny and intimate and the perfect thing for that wedding. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t worry about it. Honestly, most people hate the speeches part of a wedding – it tends to go on forever, and unless they know the couple REALLY WELL, a lot of people tend to lose interest pretty quickly.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Daizy914:  Well, if they seem like they’re not too interested in being involved, then perhaps it’s better they don’t do speeches. You don’t want them to just speak for the sake of it, but instead speak because they really want to share their feelings with everyone. 

Post # 8
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6000 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

My MOH and FI’s best man are giving speeches. I suspect my MOH’s will be short and sweet because she doesn’t like public speaking and his best man is courteous of things like that. My father wants to give a speech but he also hates speaking in public so I think his will also be short. The only other person who may want to give one is my FFIL, and that’s fine. My DJ specifically asked if we wanted to have an “open mic” for more speeches and that was a big fat NO. Too many speeches gets way too boring

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally I love speeches they are my favourite part of any wedding regardless of how well I know the couple. You get to hear cute stories and hear about the couples love. I just love them! OP it seems like you want your MOH’s to make a speech so why don’t you just ask them? Just say hey, the best men are doing a toast to the groom so I was wondering if you two would make a toast to the bride. Nothing wrong with asking.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

We did speeches during dinner, so people could focus on eating if they got bored.  But we like speeches, and my dad, MOH, best man, and both our brothers all gave speeches, and they were some of the most heartwarming and amazing speeches ever (not that I’m biased!).  Like, I keep thinking back to them and am just so amazed by the sweet things they all said.  So I would be bummed if we didn’t have those speeches, even if there were some minor inside jokes that some people didn’t really get.

As a guest, I love the speeches as well, because I like hearing nice things said about my friend/relative/whatever!  As long as they aren’t too long, or crude, or inappropriate in some other way.  

I think you should tell them it would mean a lot if they would just say a couple words, it doesn’t have to be long.  At my friend’s wedding, the best man was too scared to read his speech, so he made his wife read it.  It was so sweet, she broke down while reading it, and it was a really nice way for his words to be heard.  So maybe they could write something and have someone else read it if they don’t feel up to it?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My MOH will give a speech, she’s a college english professor/student (at the same time!) now so it’ll be well-thought out and elegant.
Our Best Man will give a speech and will no doubt mention the time I gave myself a concussion by head-butting my fiance.

So yes, I am somewhat dreading the speeches but that is totally out of my control!
All I can do about it is laugh. 🙂

I’d rather someone skip the speech than do it if it makes them uncomfortable, especially since a wedding can already be a high-pressure day.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wanted absolutely no speeches at my wedding.  My dad and grandfather insisted that my grandfather say grace before the meal — which I only went along with because it was my grandfather, and he’s 94, and it was funny and short — and then my husband’s older brother gave a speech.  I was annoyed because no one told me he was going to.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i would hate giving a speech, id ratehr not be in the wedding party if its required

as a guest, i hate it when a million different people speak (and when they’re looooooong). maximum 3 people (at a push 4 but seriously, no more), max 5 mins each or its just tedious for the guests

Post # 14
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Daizy914:  My sister/MOH has a TERRIBLE phobia about talking about her feelings.

So she wrote a speech, but only ended up comfortable enough to get through the first paragraph. The second she got emotional, she had to stop.

I was very happy she tried, without pushing her comfort level too far. Her speech was my sacond favorite of the four we had!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So far as speeches are concerned, I’m a great believer in less being more! Especially if that part of the wedding turns into open mic night.

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