Post # 1
I plan to use one Biblical wedding reading, and then I want to choose another reading that’s more secular, most likely from a poem or book, and possibly fun and quirky. I am really into readings that are less sappy and more focused on friendship and companionship. I have explored a lot of options and I really love this one from Lemony Snicket’s The Penultimate Peril:
“Dewey was wrong when he said that being noble enough is all we can ask for in this world, because we can ask for much more than that. We can ask for a second helping of pound cake, even though someone has made it quite clear that we will not get any. We can ask for a new watercolor set, even though it will be pointed out that we never used the old one and that all of the paints dried into a crumbly mess. We can ask for Japanese fighting fish, to keep us company in our bedroom, and we can ask for a special camera that will allow us to take photographs even in the dark, for obvious reasons, and we can ask for an extra sugar cube in our coffees in the morning and an extra pillow in our beds at night. We can ask for justice, and we can ask for a handkerchief, and we can ask for cupcakes, and we can ask for all the soldiers in the world to lay down their weapons and join us in a rousing chorus of ‘Cry Me a River,’ if that happens to be our favorite song. But we can also ask for something we are much more likely to get, and that is to find a person or two, somewhere in our travels, who will tell us that we are noble enough, whether it is true or not. We can ask for someone who will say, ‘You are noble enough,’ and remind us of our good qualities when we have forgotten them, or cast them into doubt.”
If it seems a little long, I figured we’d cut out a couple of the sentences in the middle and still keep the general feel and maning behind it. I love it because of its quirkiness, and I feel that it’s actually really meaningful, but I’m wondering if our guests will just think it’s plain weird and not get it. I know it’s my ceremony and I should just pick what I love, but I don’t want to if everyone’s reaction is just going to be, “Huh?”
What do you think?
Post # 3
I think it is adorable, and I think it is the perfect length. DO IT!
Post # 4
I wouldn’t use this for a wedding. Different strokes for different folks, if you love it go with it, but I would reject it on the following grounds:
– the first part seems frivolous. Some cutting might help, but, still, it feels more trivial than I would want for a wedding.
– “But we can also ask for something we are much more likely to get,” sounds a little bit entitled to me
– “to find a person or two” — not for a wedding. I’d want something clearly and exclusively focused on finding and committing to a single partner.
— “You are noble enough.” – not really the sentiment I’d be aiming for.
Again, pick it if you love it. Just my $0.02
Post # 5
@KCKnd2: I think your first observation, about the trivial-sounding stuff, is what I’m mostly worried about. A lot of the meaning of the passage really comes from the juxtaposition of the trivial stuff with what’s more important, but I wonder whether that meaning will be apparent when the guests hear it. Since I think a lot of people don’t absorb stuff as well when hearing it as opposed to reading it (I know I don’t), I wonder if a reading needs to be a little more straightforward and to the point if people are going to get the meaning. This one is kind of oblique and tongue in cheek. I read it to my stepmom and sisters, and they loved it, but then again, they’re geeks like me. 😛
I’m just so torn because I think it’s such a wonderful sentiment, and I’d rather avoid something really sappy or preachy, but I’d also rather avoid things that are on the other end of the spectrum and are really weird. So I’m struggling to find things that really speak to me.
And if I do go with this one, the “person or two” issue could be easily fixed by just cutting out the “or two.” Nobody would know any different, and it wouldn’t affect the integrity of the passage. Though that part really doesn’t bother me so much because it is so minor and the focus is on friendship and companionship anyway, which is just as important to marrage as exclusive romantic love.
Thanks for the input. 🙂
Post # 6
I like it. Thin it out by removing one or two “we can ask fors” if you think it’s too long.
Post # 7
I think it’s a little overly twee, personally. Maybe if you shortened/tooled it?
Post # 8
I like it. I think it’d be fine to edit it to get it just how you’d like it. Very sweet.
Post # 9
I love it 🙂
But then I’m a big geek too and want to have a Dr Seuss reading at my wedding.