Post # 1
Just an interesting fun topic
I feel uncomfortable when people tell me my DH is good looking or hot…. i guess i feel threatened but ive come to realize over the years that im a little jealous . but of course hes hot, thats one reason im with him. you dont think i know that hes cute? i def dont say that. but then you get girls who keep asking you if you think their DH or SO is cute… i just dont understand the need for confirmation and i feel ackward telling them their boyfriends cute. if i didnt think so would i really say no i dont think so. but on the other hand. DH will tell me when other guys tell him im hot. which i do take as a compliment . then again i feel ackward around those guys knowing they look at me that way. while DH i think feels proud. he thinks its weird i feel this way. but DH is not a jealous guy at all. dont get me wrong im not afraid something will happen with him and another girl. im just territorial. i also dont take compliments well in the first place.
am i the only one who feels this way? so i thought i would ask all you lovely ladies how you all feel about this topic? maybe its some sort of Alpha female thing ive got going on.
Post # 2
lol im a tad bit of a jealous cow. Any one of my friends can tell me my SO is goodlooking im ok with that, anyone else that would randomly come up and say wow your bf is soo hot. I would feel …proud but my claws would come out. lololllll
Post # 3
For the record, neither of us are jealous types at all. I feel flattered and proud! After all, I think he’s hot, and he picked me! I’ve never asked anyone whether they were attracted to my DH though; I think it’d be weird for other people to ask me what I think of their SO.
Post # 4
souza_2005: I would find it a little uncomfortable sometimes, but 98% as a compliment. It really depends on how it’s said.
Something I wouldn’t flinch at: someone just meets FI – “Wow! [FI] is attractive!” Thanks!
Something that would bother me: “OMG he’s so hot! Damn, girl! *insert rambling on and on about how FI is hot* ”
There’s a difference between paying a simple compliment and being weird about it, imo. My grandma definitely told me that FI was a very attractive man when we started dating (with goofy winking), and I thought it hilarious. But when a random chick decides to tell me a whole story on how FI is hot, I’mma get a littttttle territorial.
I also don’t like the friends that need constant confirmation that their SO is hot. It just seems weird to me to go about asking other people if your SO is attractive. It really only matters if you think your SO is attractive.
Post # 5
when the roles are reversed I’m flattered. I like it the other way around. He’s a reflection of me and visa versa. I like it.
Post # 6
Depends. When people tell me that my husband is a good looking man I appreciate the compliment to him. But when it’s someone I don’t like commenting on it, then I get a little annoyed, not jealous, annoyed the “I know he’s handsome thank you for telling me.”
Post # 7
gillykat824: yeah i agree! I wouldnt go around asking my friends that. seems peculiar.
My gram did the same thing!!!!!!! She was actually speechless the first time she met him, she was sitting in her chair and i walked and said gram this is pauly and she jus did the :-O then heeeellllllllooooo pauly how are you
[my goodness Amerie he is handsome! ] lololll so cute.
she was also in love with ricky martins butt back in the day loollllll
Post # 8
Amerie27: Hahaha!! My grandma definitely watches football for the butts. She’s hilarious. Gotta love feisty grandmas!! 😀
Post # 9
hahaah so true!!!!!!!! she is one feisty lil lady let me tell you. lol
hell i like football for the butts..and the game hahaaha
Post # 10
I love it! makes me that much prouder of my man! As long as they aren’t saying “he’s so hot I wish I could have my way with him” you should be fine 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
my fi works at a grocery store and is forever getting hit on. he is not overly handsome or anything, but he is very charming, chatty, and he has a scottish accent. apparently that’s an irresistable combination…. it worked for me.
i am flattered by it, and it seems to build him up. and i always know he’s coming home to me.
Post # 12
I feel like they are intelligent women with excellent eyesight. DH is beyond hot!
Post # 13
I’m always super conflicted about it. On one hand, I want people to think my man’s attractive. On the other, it ends up stirring up some of my trust issues (had a dad who cheated on my mom repeatedly so am rather scarred from that).
Post # 14
Smug smug smug haha my husband is super handsome and I recieved a lot of mmmmm’s from girlfriends. Thing is, I love him and he loves me and we only have eyes for each other. I trust him in a room full of naked swimwear models unsupervised. I take the compliment. I dun picked goooooood!
Post # 15
Do you think you’re putting a little too much stock in what people have to say about looks?
I mean, I get feeling flattered if someone says you or DH is hot, but for me, it’s kind of mild flattery and then it quickly becomes irrelevant. I don’t really care if anyone says my DH is hot or I’m hot or if anyone else asks me if their SI is hot (although I sort of think that’s a bit of weird thing to ask), because it’s kind of meaningless. You might as well replace “cute” or “hot” with “tall” or “big-footed.” Someone could say my DH is “hot” or “ugly”; I could answer “yes” or “no” to the question, and neither answer would make a difference regarding anything.