How do you handle a clingy friend who also happens to be your roommate?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
853 posts
Busy bee

@LadyBlackheart:  I used to have the same problem with one of my roommates. He was a good friend and was always nice, however sometimes I just wanted to do my own thing ya know? I’m sorry I dont have much advice because I could normally ‘ escape’ and do my own thing without having him get all upset. Is it possible to just stay in your room when you need the privacy?

Post # 7
5812 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

There are some good articles online about introverts. Get her to read them. Then talk with her about how if she loved and cared for you, she would understand that you need time to decompress. Then set a schedule when you will hang out with her. Maybe 1-2 nights a week. then encourage her to get out (maybe take a local class or join a book club or volunteer). Sounds like since she is only working part time, she isn’t getting enough interaction. Sitting at home alone is draining for her, so when you get home it’s time for fun. So she needs more friends to hang out with.

If this doesnt work, then you have to end it. A person that doesnt take NO for an answer is not a friend of yours. They are just using you for their amusement. 

PS- You have every right to blow up if she isn’t listening to you. 

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