How do you handle the stress?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was engaged on Valentine’s Day this year and am getting married October 13th. I’ve found that checking things off the list on the Knot has really helped me, I do well with lists. When I’m feeling disorganized I calm down and look at the list and focus on ONE thing only with my full attention. Once that has been accomplished I move on to the next thing. You can’t get it all done at once, you must remember its a PROCESS. 

 

Also, don’t take things so seriously. No one will remember whether you had chocolate or vanilla favors, or whether your centerpieces were perfect. Just get done what you can and release what you can’t. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mco06:  Self care! Making sure I sleep enough, eat nutritously, exercise, and do things that are important to me, like yoga and playing guitar. YOGA YOGA YOGA. This is the best time in your life for yoga!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mco06:  Haha that’s okay I totally need my chocolate when I’m stressed! I’ve learned to fill the house with some healthy alternatives… dark chocolate covered almonds! Then I don’t feel so bad when I consume the whole box in one night! And I totally eat half a bag of potato chips every now and then… but taking care of myself really helps. Also, if you’re overwhelmed right now, don’t try to do all the self care. Pick one thing out of eating, sleep, and exercise and work on it. Trying to work on all of them at once is so stressful! It has taken me probably like 5 years to get to the point where I am and even then I am still working on it (particularly the getting enough sleep part lol)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

do you have support from your fiance? friends and family? I think that’s the most important – get them involved so you’re not feeling like you have to be responsible for everything

not to make you feel worse or anything, but my fiance and I are finding wedding planning super fun and don’t want it to end. For us, it’s been months of tasting cake and wine and looking at pretty things and having people want to do nice things for us. Some of the details can get a little stressful, but we don’t let it get to us. We remember that ultimately we will be saying our vows to each other surrounded by our loved ones and having a really fun party. Yes it’s a big expensive party and can get busy and difficult, but it’s still overall a positive experience. 

what’s causing the stress? if you’re overwhelmed with too much to do, I’d suggest getting help, getting some better organizational tools (this has been a challenge for me, as I tend to be disorganized, although I love lists), or simply making your wedding less elaborate. If it’s family drama that’s stressing you out, I’m not sure how to handle that 🙁 that would be really difficult.

make sure to stay healthy and keep up with the other things in your life that aren’t wedding related. It’s so easy to get caught up in it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I just don’t stress out about much. I choose not to and that’s that. It’s one day.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Baking, honestly. I have discovered that I can make pretty tasty fudge. I also walk a lot more and read. 

Post # 11
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765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Walk away from it for a little while… a few hours, a day, a week… whatever it takes to not feel that way. I literally would go through small “spurts” of planning the wedding and when things got too much, I would finish up the loose ends of whatever I was working on and not think, talk, do ANYTHING related to the wedding until I thought I could handle it again. Take time out for you or you won’t enjoy any of it.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

+100000!!!!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Concentrate on one thing at a time.  If you try and tackle everything at once, it’s very overwhelming.  And sometimes, you just need a good cry.

I freaked out and started sobbing when I messed up addressing one of our wedding invitations. I had tons of back-up envelopes but it just really upset me for some stupid reason.  I ate some chocolate, watched a movie, went to sleep, and felt better the next day.  🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mco06:  sorry to say, but i have not been stressed at all through this whole wedding planning process. 

i started planning at the end of february for an october wedding.

take a deep breath, stay organized, make lists with deadlines, and follow it.

give your FI a To Do list for him to take care of.

what are you stressing about?

 

 

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