Post # 1
Alright bees I need to knwo if I’m not the only one who gets extremely stressed out by planning the whole wedding and then having breakdowns. Lately it seems that the whole planning has become even more stressing than before and I can’t get anything done! It really gets frustrating and at the end I end up taking it out on my poor fiance. So how do you bees deal with it?
Post # 4
I was engaged on Valentine’s Day this year and am getting married October 13th. I’ve found that checking things off the list on the Knot has really helped me, I do well with lists. When I’m feeling disorganized I calm down and look at the list and focus on ONE thing only with my full attention. Once that has been accomplished I move on to the next thing. You can’t get it all done at once, you must remember its a PROCESS.
Also, don’t take things so seriously. No one will remember whether you had chocolate or vanilla favors, or whether your centerpieces were perfect. Just get done what you can and release what you can’t.
Post # 5
@mco06: Self care! Making sure I sleep enough, eat nutritously, exercise, and do things that are important to me, like yoga and playing guitar. YOGA YOGA YOGA. This is the best time in your life for yoga!
Post # 6
@emelee: yes that is one good way hahaha
@Equine_Breeder: thanks i know i opened an account there a while back but i think i will deffinetly will try doing the checklist and just do one thing at a time 🙂
@nawella: hahaha i think i do this the wrong way, i wish i could starve when im stressed but i am the opposite i actually get hungry which blows
Post # 7
@mco06: Haha that’s okay I totally need my chocolate when I’m stressed! I’ve learned to fill the house with some healthy alternatives… dark chocolate covered almonds! Then I don’t feel so bad when I consume the whole box in one night! And I totally eat half a bag of potato chips every now and then… but taking care of myself really helps. Also, if you’re overwhelmed right now, don’t try to do all the self care. Pick one thing out of eating, sleep, and exercise and work on it. Trying to work on all of them at once is so stressful! It has taken me probably like 5 years to get to the point where I am and even then I am still working on it (particularly the getting enough sleep part lol)
Post # 8
do you have support from your fiance? friends and family? I think that’s the most important – get them involved so you’re not feeling like you have to be responsible for everything
not to make you feel worse or anything, but my fiance and I are finding wedding planning super fun and don’t want it to end. For us, it’s been months of tasting cake and wine and looking at pretty things and having people want to do nice things for us. Some of the details can get a little stressful, but we don’t let it get to us. We remember that ultimately we will be saying our vows to each other surrounded by our loved ones and having a really fun party. Yes it’s a big expensive party and can get busy and difficult, but it’s still overall a positive experience.
what’s causing the stress? if you’re overwhelmed with too much to do, I’d suggest getting help, getting some better organizational tools (this has been a challenge for me, as I tend to be disorganized, although I love lists), or simply making your wedding less elaborate. If it’s family drama that’s stressing you out, I’m not sure how to handle that 🙁 that would be really difficult.
make sure to stay healthy and keep up with the other things in your life that aren’t wedding related. It’s so easy to get caught up in it.
Post # 9
I just don’t stress out about much. I choose not to and that’s that. It’s one day.
Post # 10
Baking, honestly. I have discovered that I can make pretty tasty fudge. I also walk a lot more and read.
Post # 11
Walk away from it for a little while… a few hours, a day, a week… whatever it takes to not feel that way. I literally would go through small “spurts” of planning the wedding and when things got too much, I would finish up the loose ends of whatever I was working on and not think, talk, do ANYTHING related to the wedding until I thought I could handle it again. Take time out for you or you won’t enjoy any of it.
Post # 13
hahaha thansk bees for sharing your tips!
@nawella: i know i try to dothat but with two older boys in the fam it gets hard not eating the chips they always lay around lol
@SarahCF: i do have support from him the only thing is that he will support me in any decision i take, so it doesnt help when i can’t make up my mind between two things. Hopefully once we get started with all the food tasting he will get more involved. My mom on the other hand is really outspoken but I have noticed we have really different tastes so we tend to butt heads alot. And I can deffinetly relate to being unorganized lol, so now ihave started using things from the knot as another bride suggested.
i think i need to really not stress ut that much since you bees are right, it’ s just one day and i have noticed that you really can’t please everybody and at the end of the day there will always be somebody critizing your decisions. i
Post # 14
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: sorry my computer froze on the last post, but yes that is just what I did for the fourth ou July and it did help out ALOT! So deffinetly taking breaks is a great idea
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Concentrate on one thing at a time. If you try and tackle everything at once, it’s very overwhelming. And sometimes, you just need a good cry.
I freaked out and started sobbing when I messed up addressing one of our wedding invitations. I had tons of back-up envelopes but it just really upset me for some stupid reason. I ate some chocolate, watched a movie, went to sleep, and felt better the next day. 🙂
Post # 16
@mco06: sorry to say, but i have not been stressed at all through this whole wedding planning process.
i started planning at the end of february for an october wedding.
take a deep breath, stay organized, make lists with deadlines, and follow it.
give your FI a To Do list for him to take care of.
what are you stressing about?