Post # 1
I’ve been looking for bridesmaids dresses for about 4 months and I have found found an option that works for 4 very different sized bridesmaids that also are not too formal. Only problem is that with Shipping they are about $40 more than I said I was hoping to spend. None of them seem to have a problem with the increase however, I am thinking about covering the extra cost for them but how?
I feel like writing them a check to cover just a portion of the dress is just awkward? So how do you gracefully help and offer? I know all 4 will say no thanks.
Is there is alternative that is better? Cover a hotel room or buy dinner or a better gift or something like that?
Post # 3
I’d give them visa gift cards if you don’t want to hand over cash. That way they can use them for whatever they want… whether it’s the dress, shoes or something non wedding related. I wouldn’t spend the money on a better gift, I think it’s hard to buy really great gifts for people that they will really love and/or use. As a bridesmaid, I’d appreciate the $$$.
Post # 4
I used to like the Visa gift cards, now I don’t as much, they charge a fee to buy them, and if they go unused, the recepient gets charged a fee too. Plus, I received a few from our wedding and not all websites accept them, which is super annoying. If I were in your shoes, I would take the $40/girl and spend it on something necessary they need for the wedding (hotel, travel). Dinner and stuff is great, but if they are in a financial pickle, I think they’d rather have something necessary than a nice dinner.
Post # 5
You could also get their hair, makeup and/or nails on the day of the wedding instead! Accomodations or another token of your appreciation are also good ideas! What a wonderful bride you are!
Honestly, they probably don’t care about the $40. They’re just happy you offered to make up the difference. (However, if you insist on paying, you could order all of the dresses yourself and just have the girls pay you the reduced amount.)
Post # 6
Thanks, I know they don’t mind but I just feel the dress I bought are just simple cotton dresses yet they are very expensive. I feel guilty. Maybe helping out with something else they would spend money on for the wedding would be good and not as awkward as handing them cash. hair and makeup is good. Maybe buy their shoes or hotel