Post # 1
A lot of posts here talk about being afraid to talk to their best friend about various subjects. I mean maybe it’s just me, maybe it’s just my best friends, but we tell each other everything. We talk about everything. They were the first to know when FI and I started dating, when we broke up, when we got back together, when we started having sex, when we had particulary good sex, when we had particularly bad sex, when we got engaged and they’ll be there when we get married. We know every major detail and most minor details and some details we didn’t need to know about each other. We’re brutally honest and tell it like it is, whether you like it or not.
Considering all of this, I find it so strange to hear someone ask, “How do I tell my best friend I don’t like the dress she wants to wear?” “Should I tell my best friend her boyfriend is cheating on her?” “How can I tell my best friend she’s making stupid decisions without hurting her feelings?” And it’s even more confusing to me when the responses say, “Don’t say anything,” “It’s not your place,” “Just mind your own business.”
So, how do you interact with your best friend(s)? Can you tell them anything? Do you bother with politeness and tact?
Post # 3
We talk about pretty much everything. The only thing we don’t really talk about is sex, because my husband is her older brother. It would just be weird!!!!
Post # 4
We talk about pretty much everything as well. I rarely have things that I can’t say to her, unless it’s something she said or did that I don’t agree with where she didn’t ask my advice.
Post # 5
We used to tell each other a lot more and in much more harsh and confrontational terms than we do now. Now that we are both married we share less about relationships, sex, arguments etc than we used to. We also try to be honest with each other but for me, I find I have to dance around my words and choose them wisely these days, much more so than before. Ita frustrating.
Post # 6
I tell my best friend a lot of stuff, but I don’t discuss my sex life with anyone but my husband (or on an online forum like this one!). I guess I just never really felt comfortable discussing that stuff. I also try not to majorly bitch to anyone about my husband (like if we have a fight or something) because I don’t want them to have a skewed, one-sided perception of him. That never ends well. We try to keep our fights (nothing major so far!) within our marriage.
If she’s going to do something that I think is a bad idea, I will tell her. I haven’t encountered a situation yet where I needed to tell her something but couldn’t.
Post # 7
We talk about a lot of things, but I don’t talk about things that are none of her business (like my sex life), and I don’t want to talk about things that are none of my business (like if I knew her partner was cheating on her or something. Absolutely none of my business).
Post # 8
We talk about a lot of stuff, sex included. We talk about our dreams, goals, aspirations, we send each other pictures (she’s in TX, I’m on the east coast) and chat every day on Gchat. I send her kids stuff for school and their birthdays/Christmas, etc.
I totally have told her what I do and don’t like and she has done the same. XD <3 her.
Post # 9
My BFFs and I talk about most everything. However, there are some issues that are painful for them, so I try to not to bring them up with the individual girl. For example, my BFF from high school is super scared of dogs so I try not to send her videos of my puppies tearing up things around the house etc.
Post # 10
I tell my BFF about 90% of everything. Some things are too intimate to tell anyone besides my hubby. But those things are subjects that I wouldn’t post on a form either.
Post # 11
We talk about everything but sex. Or at least my sex life. I used to relate hook-ups and flings, and she still does some (she’s single,) but in a serious relationship I feel like its disrespectful to my FI, and a violation of our trust, to talk about that to anyone. But I would absolutely tell her if she was planning to wear something ugly or if her boyfriend was cheating on her. I see that as my business to tell her because I care about her, and cheating puts her at risk physically and emotionally. I also think we are more comfortable talking about money than most people, we grew up together and dealt with those issues long ago.
Post # 12
@HonoraryNerd: well my best friend is my fiance (honestly). I had girl-friends growing up that we would share everything with but college kind of seperated us some. I’ll be asking them to be my BMs but I can understand being a little hesitant asking them things
Post # 13
I have a few best friends and our interactions are all different. One girl I tell everything to… sex, bodily functions, deep secrets – nothing is off the table. We met when we were teenagers, so I think we met when our personalities were more set in stone. Another best friend of mine has been there since we were 8. Our friendship is deeply rooted in history, but we’re very different. I’m an open book and she’s rather reserved. She’d probably pass out if I did half the things I do around my other best friend (like…walk around naked, ha!).
Post # 14
We talk about just about everything. We talk almost every day and even go grocery shopping together.
Post # 15
We talk about everything especially sex!
I have my own issues with relying on others for help but it has nothing to do with feeling comfortable confiding in my best friend. It’s my own deal and I’ve been working on that.
Post # 16
I believe in boundaries. In high school I had a “tell everything to” best friend but not anymore. My relationship details aren’t for public consumption. My husband is my best friend anyway, followed by my sister. I can tell them anything but I choose not to tell my sister about my sex life. That seems juvenile to me.