Post # 1
I got married about six months ago, and my husband and I went to our first major public event where we were introducing ourselves and each other to people who hadn’t met us before. I kept introducing myself as “Husband’s wife, Firstname Lastname” so that people understood we didn’t have the same last name, but it felt … overly emphatic. How do others deal with that? (I don’t really care if other people get my name wrong, except that I work in a related field to my husband and there’s an element of work-networking in there, too.)
Post # 3
@occhiblu: I’ve always wondered about this. Socially, if people call me Mrs. HisLast, I’ll be ok, but networking/professionally, I will be Mine-His. I think we’ll just introduce ourselves by first name, and if people do that ‘Oooh, Fiiiiirst…..’ then I’ll just reply ‘First Mine-His.’ Sort of the lazy way out, making them ask me 🙂
Post # 4
Would you want him to say, My Wife First Name? I don’t think its too emphatic if it is a work related environment. It indicates you may be known professionally by your own name.
Post # 5
@justelope: You know, I think you hit it — I probably would feel more comfortable if he would introduce me as “My wife, Firstname Lastname.” He was introducing me as “My wife” or “My wife, Firstname,” but that left me in a weird spot, maybe? I mean, I think that’s the standard intro for a wife who shares a last name, but I’m iffy on whether I should make it a point that I have a different last name — but this may also be coming from me freaking out while trying to address wedding invitations and getting completely overwhelmed with figuring out which couples shared a last name and which did not.
Post # 6
I’m not married yet but I plan to make it clear whenever it’s possible to do so without being completely obnoxious that I don’t share a last name with my husband. I think introducing yourself with your last name is totally fine.
Post # 7
@occhiblu: I think introducing him first makes it easier to flow, whether he says your name or you do. I.e.- “I’m Brad Pitt, and this is my wife, Angelina Jolie-Pitt.” *or* “I’m Brad Pitt…” “…and I’m (his wife) Angelina Jolie-Pitt.”
Maybe make it a team effort? 🙂 If he’s on board ahead of time, you two can navigate the intros smoothly.
Post # 8
@occhiblu: I’d have him do the intro, if it’s people he knows, as “This is my wife, YourFirst YourLast” that way there isn’t any confusion. If he’s not by your side, then I like @indibee:‘s suggestion 🙂