How do you keep costs down for extended family gifts?

posted 4 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
8476 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cooperlove:  I make custom ornaments and cookies/cakes as gifts.

Post # 5
4499 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

the “Great Christmas Package Drama of 2011”

@cooperlove:  haha! For distant relatives I sometimes just bake and send them food in cute tins. If I don’t see them often and we aren’t particularly close then its difficult for me to rationalize buying them a gift. With those types of people I wouldn’t really even know what to get them.

Post # 6
10369 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We all mutally agreed that it was an insane amount of money and stopped exchanging gifts. We do group skypes/exchange cards/do something thoughtful instead. Who needs a million cheap and pretty useless gifts? Nobody! Occasionally we’ll all go in on a vacation rental house together and make a long weekend vacation together our gift to each other. Time + thoughtfulness = best gift ever!

Post # 7
3874 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve done recipe books in the past – or those “kits” that you make in a mason jar or cute cellophane bag – like hot chocolate or cookies. It’s got all the ingredients and the receipe on a hang tag. Cute, cheacp (especially if you make them yourself).

Post # 8
3701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I start now with the DIY.  I crochet and make a lot of hats/scarves/baby clothes.  We cut aunts/uncles and cousins off the gift list a few years ago, actually.  And now that my brother has a baby, she gets all the presents. 

I also bake a lot of stuff closer to Christmas, or even now if it’s something that will freeze.  🙂

Post # 12
9696 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t. I wish I did, but I don’t. Le sigh.

ETA: I only give gifts to my parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, and of course, my husband. No aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc. Just say no to overspending! The people I do give gifts to are more than enough.

Post # 15
7242 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Thankfully we don’t ship any presents but I still feel you. My dad’s side refuses to do a Secret Santa so we buy for each and every one of 25 family members. It’s so stupid. I bake for each family but when I was living at home dad still insisted each person still get a gift. Last year my sister and I made gifts for all the girls and dad bought for the guys. This year I will probably just bake and leave the other gifts to dad and sister. 


In your case I would send a card with a gift card and be done with it. That’s too much hassle!!!!

Post # 16
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@cooperlove:  Could you suggest to the family that rather than everyone exchanging smaller cheaper gifts, that you do a secret santa type of thing?  That way everyone can still participate, but it’s way less expensive and less of a logistical headache for everyone.  Obviously, if you’re all far away and can’t pull names out of a hat, you could always have someone designated to assign names to people.  We used to do this for our christmas get togethers with friends.

I know I would rather not receive tons of smaller knick-knacks just because everyone feels like they have to give gifts to everyone.

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