Post # 1
Our wedding is quite a ways away. That being said, sometimes I find myself stressing out about something really little. At other times I obsess over something that doesn’t even MATTER. Case in point. My BM’s shoes. I would like them to wear slip-ons that are a bright color. I don’t care what color, they can pick. I chose slip-ons because we’ll be outside and I don’t want them to be uncomfortable trying to walk in grass in heels. My Maid/Matron of Honor straight up tells me no because slip-ons hurt her bunion.
Ok… No big deal. I’ll figure something out. But now I’m obsessing. What about gladiator sandals? No, probably not it might be cold since it’s an early Midwest May. What about wedges? No, half of them hate wedges. It’s stupid. I shouldn’t be obsessing over little stuff like this 10 months before the wedding. LoL
Anyway, when I take a step back I realize shoes don’t matter. I just want my girls comfortable. So here’s my question. How do you bees remind yourself NOT to stress out about the little things? How do you keep from the dreaded Bridezilla reaction when something doesn’t go as planned and keep from obsessing over stuff that doesn’t matter?
Post # 3
@GlynnBugg13: It’s really hard, and the closer my wedding gets the more I can’t slow my mind down. That being said, I’ve been trying to focus on the fact that as much as the wedding day is important…my marriage is way more important, the wedding’s just a fun party! I’ve been trying to meditate and clear my mind when I’m feeling overwhelmed, although that’s been really difficult for me. But, it does help to remind yourself to slow down. I just told my bridemaids the color shoe I wanted, and let them pick out what they wanted…I don’t even know what they’ll be wearing that day, and don’t care. I got backup flip flops for them in case they pick uncomforable shoes : )
Post # 4
I just tell myself it’s one day and in the long run, the small stuff won’t matter. I have been stress-less so far. I dont care for perfection anymore (I wanted it but I am not willing to stresss myself to death for it over a one day event).
I asked my bm’s to wear silver ballet flats (I am wearing blue ones). I had 3 of the 6 bm’s moan about it… however 2 have come on board and love the idea now and the other bm iwas still trying to get me to change my mind. When I approached the other 5 bm’s about maybe changing the ballet flats idea, they all said no, to keep it. So I just gave in and let them decide and ballet flats won out. I don’t want to be any form of bridezilla so I am being as easy going as I can be. I know stress will come but I will remind myself to have fun, breathe and think about marrying fi and nothing else.