@ Mr Bee…you’re kidding right? You’ll totally say that, probably every day and most of the time it’ll be after you see another cute kid…or an ugly one for that matter. 🙂
This is a topic I know a ton about…considering I have a a 4.5 year old daughter and a 5.5 year old marriage.
Here are things we do…
Have date nights once a week, sometimes more if my parents are itching to see the girl. We have lots of help which makes this really easy, but even if you don’t it’s totally worth the money.
When we’re out at dinner, etc. we don’t talk about Lil the whole time. We do talk about funny things she’s done or said or school, but we also work in work, hobbies, each other, sexy talk… 🙂
We take one family vacation and one couple vacation a year. And before you think these are super cool vacations, usually the family one is to the beach and couple one is to the ABA yearly meeting, so his firm pays for our hotel/his flight and meals etc., but it’s always in a fun city and we eat great, sleep in and sightsee in his free time.
He’s my best friend and I’m his. I could never replace him and he knows it. God forbid, if something happened to our sweet daughter, we could have another child. We could never replace her, but it’s just different. It’s not something I really like to think that would ever happen, of course, but it’s true.
Being pregnant and having Lil has made us a stronger, happier couple and it’s made us a family, which is something I can’t even begin to describe. It’s a great feeling to know that you’ve made a little unit.
Honestly though, some people just can’t help but become all about their kids. I think it just depends on the marriage, the person, the child even. Different circumstances will make anybody become all baby/all the time.
If anybody has any other questions about how to balance the two, I’ll try and give an answer to it. It’s not easy, but it’s totally worth it.