Post # 1
It’s been about 6 months of being engaged and had only 2 meltdowns. Today another one struck and sitting back reflecting on it and embarassed. We received our Save The Dates which we spent about $175 on (more than wanted too) and when we got them back we relaized we choose a picture where the lighting was ALL wrong! The Save the Dates are Cubs/Sox magnetic schedules which are cute/hopefully useful, BUT we didn’t pick out the picture carefully enough. My fiance literally has a halo over his head and there is a bright light in the corner of the picture. I have no idea how we did not notice this, but now we have them. I was so disappointed/angry that I blamed it on him for not helping out enough. Anwyays, anyone else have a moment like this where they freak out over something minor (in the scheme of things)??
How do you react when something totally does not work out the way planned??? I’m sure this won’t be the last of the mishaps!
Post # 3
Awe, i’m sorry to hear that. I haven’t really become that involved with the plannings yet to really get to that point yet. However I’m sure I’ll feel the same way. But also, I’m pretty sure I would vent it out a bit,but then just let it go. Being on “Weddingbee” and after reading a lot of these threads….I just realized how much of a big deal I been making this out to be but in the end it doesn’t really matter.
After your wedding is over you wont even remember the little mistakes like your STD’s. I would try not to let it get you upset. Maybe have a small support group to remind you that it’s okay.
Post # 4
We implemented a “no crying rule”. Of course, after that was in place – I burst into tears for meltdown #6 (or something – I lost count :-).)
I try to just take some deep breaths. And gave myself a “present” of a piece of paper at the front of my wedding binder that says “At the end of the day, the most important thing is that we’re married.” I made that after freakout #1 when i almost pulled the plug and demanded a JOP marriage. ooops!
Post # 5
Eh, I’ve had my moments.
I guess when I do, I just take a step back and realize that it’s not THAT big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. A bad photo on your STD doesn’t mean your wedding will be awful or that your marriage will fail.
I think that you recognizing that you were in the wrong for getting mad at him is a HUGE step on the road to NOT being a bridezilla.
Post # 6
A bad photo in the STD really doesn’t matter. I misspelled my name on the invitation card, was devastated for a few days but forgot about it and enjoyed my wedding. Enjoy your moment and chill out in the planning.
Post # 7
Thanks everybody, I feel better already!
@ GOldilocks, that’s funny! I love your idea of putting that quote down in the wedding binder.
@lifeinshutter, that’s great that you let the mistake not ruin your week. I know I will make many more mistakes so need to start finding humor in them. Thanks for your real life story!
@Wendy, good outlook on wedding planning!
@ San Diego, thanks for the pep talk!