How do you know if you are good friends with someone in real life according to

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t judge my friendships based on FB activity and I’m not sure why anyone would…

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You can’t tell from facebook. I have people I consider acquaintances who comment on my stuff all the time. Having similar interests does not a close friendship make.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m sorry but what?! I don’t base my friendships off of Facebook, nor should anyone. It’s a tool that yes allows you to stay connected with people but if that’s the only place you talk to someone I wouldn’t call them a friend. Friends are the people who you laugh with and cry with and sometimes even fight with. you hang out when you can and talk when you can. Some people don’t activley even use Facebook much, I would never judge a friendship based on how much they liked my posts, but rather how they affect my actual life. I’ll just say that I’m not inviting anyone to my wedding that I only interact with on Facebook, yes I have some active interactions with certain older friends trough there that I never see in person but that’s as far as it goes. If it was a real friendship we would make plans to get together and talk outside of the internet.

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Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Real friends are people I know in real life. I hang out with them, share interests in common and know that we can count on each other. I wouldn’t use Facebook as any sort of meaningful measure of friendship.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why are you asking?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I chat with my real friends less on Facebook becaue we talk about everything when we get together. I really only use Facebook as a tool to keep in contact with old friends who moved away and distant family memebers.

If you want to know if a person is really your friend you should call them and set up a day to hang out. Real friends make time for you and Facebook friends are just people who know your status update.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ap2010:  I looked at some of your old posts and it seems to me that you take Facebook way way to seriously. It’s a tool that helps you stay connected to people but it shouldn’t be your only way to connect to people. it’s NOT a way to make new friends, it’s a way to keep in touch with ones you make and already have. I know a girl who would friend people she met once and everyone talked about how creepy and weird that was behind her back, because most people don’t want to share their personal life with someone they met once. Don’t be that girl. Make a date with your girlfriends to grab a coffee or see a movie in person, If there is someone you talk to a lot of Facebook but not in person ask them to hang out! 

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t judge my friendship by Facebook. In favt I was just commenting the other day about how on my birthday, most of the people who wrote on my wall I havent talked to in years and was never very good friends with them. I ended up unfriending quite a few people that day!  My real friends call me and we see each other as often as we can.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

Ap2010:  The idea that “likes” or “comments” on Facebook have any correlation to friendship in real life , is just whacked.

Friends are people who are there for you iin real life, not online.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I base friendships on  how often they want to see you or hang out. If I’m the one always making the plans I think maybe they don’t want to be my friend since they never initiate anything so I stop initiating plans. I don’t judge friendships based on Facebook ever since I don’t use it a lot plus any rando can like your status or make a comment but a real friend will make an effort to talk or hang out outside social media.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you take Facebook way too seriously.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I have maybe 10 people in my life that I consider to be real friends, but I have like 500 friends on FB. It’s funny because most of my actual friends rarely ever like or comment on anything unless it has something to do with them in some way. Like a friend I’ve known since elementary school goes to the same college as me, and if I post something about my school she will always like/comment, but she never really contacts me through FB otherwise even though we try to meet up as often as we can. 

The people who DO like/comment on things tend to be people that I know in passing. There’s a guy I went to high school with that graduated two years before me. I haven’t seen/talked to him in almost five years. I went about 4 years without hearing anything from him, and now he suddenly likes pretty much everything I put on FB. I have a few people like that that will comment on pretty much everything I post even though we never really spoke when we had the chance to.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

you have an obsession with facebook. it’s unhealthy. you need to back away from the internet, and stop depending on facebook or strangers on a wedding forum. especially because you aren’t planning a wedding.

but, what julies1949 said is completely accurate. likes and status comments don’t mean someone is your friend.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just stop.

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