Post # 1
I know someone posted a simular thread a few months back but I want to know how do you all know when a couple is a serious couple. My personal opinion is when a couple is serious that they dated for a long peroid of time, spend time with eachothers families and get invited to eachothers family functions/weddings, and are in family photos. What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
You ask them. You don’t get to decide if they are serious based on a set criteria. They will tell you if they want you to know.
Post # 3
Ap2010: I think a couple is serious when they decide they are.
Post # 4
Ap2010: hmmm… I can’t think of a single family photo that I am in. a part of me doubts I will ever be invited into family photos as his family gets “weird” about such things. Oh well.
Post # 5
When they are engaged. lol. Seriously, though, as a bride planning a wedding, that is a great cut off. Sadly, that gets thrown off when family members add guests without the request.
Post # 6
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I agree with PP, I don’t think there’s a criteria that I’d go by, I don’t think you have to be dating for a long time to be serious about each other, or the spending time with each other’s families or whatnot- some people’s families may not friendlyor accepting… If both people in the relationship are serious about each other, then they are serious.
Post # 7
How do you decide when your relationship is serious? That’s up to you.
How do you decide when someone else’s relationship is serious? You don’t.
You can’t quantify relationships with a checklist.
Post # 8
cmbr: Exactly this. I don’t think it’s fair to measure someone else’s relationship to your standards. Each couple is different and decides on their own when they are serious about each other.
Post # 9
From a past relationship I can say length of relationship (six years) did not equal serious relationship. Now I’m married to my husband after we’d been dating less than a year…so obviously serious. Idk how one outside of the relationship could gauge the seriousness of someone else’s relationship.
Post # 10
I definitely don’t think your list makes up a serious couple. DH and I decided to get married after dating for 6 weeks, which certainly isn’t a long time. I think the only way to know is to ask them.
Post # 11
It always blows me away when people decide they get the right to decide how “serious” someone else’s relationship is. I understand having parameters like limiting it to “engaged” couples as a cutoff for wedding invites, however I’ve met couples who’ve been together years who aren’t as in sync as some couples who have been together a few months.
Post # 12
FEDORAble: this exactly. It blows my mind when people say their cut off is engaged. So your friends who aren’t engaged but have lived together for 5 years aren’t invited?
Post # 14
MrsDogMama: So as a current bride to be, are you saying that you and your FI weren’t serious the day before your engagement?
I agree with the majority. A couple is serious when they’re serious about each other. It has nothing to do with anyone outside of the couple (including the family of either half of the couple) so it’s really not up for anyone else’s discussion/decision whether or not they’re serious.
Post # 15
Oh goodness, I wasn’t in family photos until 3.5 years in, one month before we got engaged!