Post # 1
How do you know he’s the “one” and how long did it take? I wonder this because I have been in a few serious relationships before, but they never felt right. When I met FI, it all happened so fast, but we both loved it! I can’t explain how I know, but I do. It is this feeling I have when I look at him. I truelly see myself waking up to him every morning and falling asleep with him for the rest of my life. I think I really knew when we moved in together and he stepped in as a father figure for my son. Someone that can accept both of us so willingly and stand by us is a good man. Especially since my son is only 1 1/2, and still can be really hard! I’m curious as so how everyone else knows though too, and when it happened.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
For us, we “knew” when we decided. 🙂 I think making a relationship work takes an act of will from both parties… when you’re with someone who is willing to try as hard as you are, then you’re with the right person.
Post # 4
I didn’t know at first. I mean, I felt this connection with him, but I wasn’t blown away at first sight lol. Honestly, the first time we met in person (we met online) I was like, um…. not the initial attraction, ya know? But we had already talked so much and gotten to be such good friends, I was already falling in love with him. He is very genuine and actually listened to me, which is more than I ever got out of a relationship before. A few weeks after we started hanging out, I realized that I loved him. It has deepend ever since and I am so glad we took a chance on each other. We are getting married in 2 weeks! 🙂
Post # 5
okqueenbee — that sounds a lot like me and my FI! The meeting online and everything….
I think I knew on the 2nd or 3rd date. There was just some feeling there that I couldn’t explain. I had always been a “serial dater” and couldn’t keep track of all the guys I dated (not in relationships, of course!) But I couldn’t ever stick with anyone for more than a month or two before the FI! 🙂
Post # 6
there definitely wasn’t a particular moment or incident that caused me to know my BF was “it” – i knew about a month in, after i just got this feeling that he wasn’t going anywhere. and he hasn’t 🙂
Post # 7
we “met” online but when we actaully had our first date there was no going back…pretty much love at first sight…spent the next week together almost everyday and then moved in together after one month…engaged after a year…really fast but everything felt right 🙂
Post # 8
within a month, for sure!
Post # 9
We met online as well and by the 3rd or 4th date I knew. I was always terrified about the future and marrying someone until I met him. I would never date someone for very long before him and I had never said I love you before. With my FI, I said it about a month after meeting. I felt that if I didn’t say it, it would come out by accident because I felt it every time I saw him or we spoke.
Post # 10
I knew from the first conversation that he was someone special. We talked on the phone until 3:30 in the morning and then I woke up to a text from him. I did have a week of “it’s too good to be true” thinking but by the 2nd week…it was love. He asked me to marry him a little over 2 months after our first conversation and we have been engaged for almost 3 years. We will be getting married in Jamaica next month but we have been through so much stuff in the past 3 years we feel like it’s just a formality =)
Post # 11
I think that we both knew that we were meant to be together when we had deaths in the family at three different times. I guess you could say that death made us realize how much we loved each other and how much we wanted to be in each other’s lives forever.
Post # 12
Within a couple months… we were head over heels for each other (and still are)! 🙂
Post # 13
I think I knew before I met M in person that there was something about him. I never made a decision without consulting with him because I respected his opinion. When I met him briefly in January of 08 I was afraid because I could feel the energy between us and his eyes were just so kind and his smile was exactly what I needed. I guess I was afraid maybe? I mean what if he truly wasn’t the one and I liked him so much and we were such great friends, you know? Then we saw each other again on June 1 and it was it for me. We grinned and flirted and we STILL grin and flirt with each other. I never imagined finding EXACTLY what I was looking for in a man, and then I met M and trust me when you meet the right person you meet the right person. Before in relationships I always looked for the next best thing or always wondered if my life would be better if I was with this guy, or this one or would I be better off alone. When I met M I was just happy. Gosh I love this man.
Post # 14
this sounds so silly and storybook but i actually called my mom after our very first conversation and told her i’d met “the one.” we had only talked for a few minutes (we met in a parking garage and the attendant brought my car quickly…grrr!) and i didn’t even catch his name. still, i knew enough from those few exchanged words that he was MY someone special!
Post # 15
LoveBuzz – I’m so curious, how did you meet up with him again? Same garage? What a great story.
I agree with Miss Spaniel. I think love is an action, not just a feeling — not that it doesn’t coincide with the warm and fuzzies, but when the initial mushiness subsides, you have to consciously decide to make your relationship work.
Post # 16
it’s cute actually because the garage is near the gym where we both work out. i had seen him in the gym a few times and he had always caught my eye. i found him attractive but i was also intrigued because some days he would be wearing a suit and just chatting with the people at the front desk. unbeknownst to me he had figured out my gym schedule and had actually been trying to get his workout in around the same time that i did. this was tricky because i am a teacher and could easily get to the gym in the early afternoon. he says that often he would rush straight from work, hence the suit, and then have to head right back! the day that we actually “met” he says that he purposely followed me out to the garage in the hopes that he would finally say hello! we saw each other after that day in the gym and the rest is history. <3