(Closed) How do you leave your "work stress" at work?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsBeck:  tagging so I can read too ……….

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have a tough job mentally and struggle with this too.  The 2 things that work for me

 

-taking a shower when I get home from work is cleansing

 

-Changing clothes, so I don’t feel like I am in “work mode”

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t know..I wish I did! I find it really hard to leave stress at work too.

Hoping for some tips.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsBeck:  I sometimes have the same problem.

I try to tell myself that worrying won’t accomplish anything, and my worries will be at the office, where I left them… regardless of whether I think about work or not that night.

It doesn’t sound like you’re handling it too badly, though. I think it’s normal for work to affect one’s personal life every now and then.

You could try writing down your frustrations before you get home so you don’t have to complain to your SO. Or agree that you’ll only spend 10 min or so complaining, but then forget about it for the rest of the night.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MrsBeck:  I have a pretty high stress job, I typically work under an average of 13 to 15 deadlines of varying complicity combined with the fact that I work with family…so it can get a little nuts around here….I’m an insomniac by nature, but not sleeping makes me a little kooky and mean…so I make a concentrated effort to leave my work in my office.

When I leave the office for the day, I sit in my car and look at the front door to our office building, there’s this little window next to the door, it runs from the floor to the ceiling….so I imagine that my work, is actually this ugly little monster…with gooey eyes and a funny face, some horns, and he’s just going to wait there by the door until I get in the next day, I tell him to “Stay” and “wait right there” and he does, because he’s a good little monster, and then I drive away.

Then, because I certainly have things outside of work that bug me, I imagine that I’m in the warehouse from Who Framed Roger Rabbit…and Toon Town with all it’s zaniness is my life…all the stress and silliness, things that bother me, things that upset me, things that aren’t done….it’s just this crazy jumble of noise and colors….I walk up to this big, triple thick, sliding steel door, and shove it slowly closed, making sure none of the Toons get out…and I slide the bolt into place, and I lock it with a padlock, and I’m left inside of a big, dark, empty space…but it’s not scary, it’s just got possibilities….

From there I let my mind wander to fun places, memories, fantasies, things that could be….always nice things though, things that are good….and if one of the Toons shows up in there, I rattle that big lock, and it vanishes, because those are the rules, if it’s locked, you aren’t in here right now.

It took a long time for me to master this weird level of zen, but it works and it’s relaxing….find a way that works for you!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsBeck:  Yup, lists definitely help me out as well! It is so satisfying to cross items off as well. And you know you’re not missing anything.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Usually for me, I take a big deep breath when I step outside and then I get in my car, blast music that I love and just relax on the drive home. When I get home, I change out of my work clothes and focus on something not work related.

I used to bring work stress home with me so bad that it would ruin my night, but over time I have been able to condition myself to really turn it off when I leave for the day.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

most of the time, I’m able to just make myself let it go. one time though, I was so stressed out about not finishing what I was supposed to finish before the wedding, I went to work on my off day. Never doing that again.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have a high stress job, it’s mentally exhausting.

Me and fi have “rules” about our work.

– Showering is GREAT after work. I normally shower in the morning, and sometimes when I get home as well.

– Changing clothes, weather it be to go shopping after work, or getting in my pjs and lounging around. It feels good to NOT be in work clothes.

– Me and fi each take turns talking about our day. After that, we leave the baggage at the door and enjoy each other.

– I find cooking relaxing, espcially baking. Me & fi always cook our meals together, even if one is just doing dishing while the other one is cooking.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsBeck:  urgh. DH was very angry with me for doing that. however, I did manage to finish what I was supposed to finish. my coworkers were like “don’t fail at getting married the way you failed at finishing your test!”

Thanks. Jerks. 😛

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I second the to-do lists. I write down what I need to do the next day at the end of the current workday on a note on my phone, then close the note. I feel better knowing that I will keep those things at the forefront the next day by having a list, and I’m able to comfortably let them go for the night. Then I jam out on the way home to fun music and turn my thoughts to dinner 😉

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