Post # 1
As some of you know I live 8hrs away from my family.
My husband is the second youngest of all cousins. All his cousins minus one (who lives in another state) all have kids that are all grown up.
There are three co-workers of mine with young kids (3 and soon to be 1) and one co-worker who I don’t really like. Besides that there are no real young kids that we know.
I want our child to be around other children that are her age. So besides daycare how did your child make new friends? How did you make friends with new moms?
Playgroups? How do you find out about them?
Post # 3
Our hospital has a “Mommy Talk” group that meets onces a week. I am hoping to meet a friend or two there. It starts right after birth!
Post # 4
I joined a couple of mommy groups on Meetup.com. I hope that paves a pathway to meet other mommies. I’ve had a really difficult time meeting people since we moved here. I hope the baby changes that lol 🙂
Post # 5
I am going to go to the breast feeding support group that’s offered at the hospital where I will be delivering. It meets once a week. My sister went to the one where she is and has made tons of friends from it. So I’m hoping it works out for me. Most of my friends have already had kids, that are now older, or aren’t planning to for another couple of years.
Post # 6
Does your husband have any friends or co-workers who have young children or whose wives are having babies? DH’s co-workers wife was my age (under 30) and we were pregnant with our first child at the same time. Our husbands talked to each other quite a bit about us and we had a lot in common so we ended up meeting and hanging out frequently. Now our son’s are bestfriends at 3 years old (and I love that we have all their infant photos of them together, bath time, zoo visits, pool time, etc.)
Our hospital offers a “mommy and me” group that I might try out after our second baby is born. What about neighbors with young children? I think it’s easier to make friends with other parents once your children become involved in sports, activities and school though.
Post # 7
@heathaah: & @Marriedandlovingit: & @mwitter80:
Thanks! I’ll have to see if there are ones locally for me!
Unfortunately no, he’s the youngest at his work place. Everyone else’s kids are full grown. Our new home will be in more of a young family neighborhood so I’m hoping we can make friends with young families this way. I just don’t want them to go into kindergarten not socialized! It’s a fear of mine.
Post # 8
A lot of my friends are having babies–and these are all friends I met through my husband. We live very close to where he grew up so a lot of his social circle has stayed the same.
We are also very involved in a large church. There are tons of moms groups, but we have met expecting couples just from church on Sunday or in our co-ed small group. This is how I met most of my childhood friends–through the church I grew up in! (I was homeschooled)
Post # 9
@regberadaisy: It was a fear of mine also-once my son’s little friend moved a few states away I just started taking him to the park and story time at the library more often…we didn’t necessarily meet anyone there that I stayed in contact with but it still gave him exposure. There’s also a lot of children museum’s, rainy day indoor play area’s and preschools that can help them get out of their comfort zone.
Post # 10
My sister recently had a baby and met other new mommies on meetup.com
Post # 11
I think it gets easier as your baby gets older and more active. Initially, I met most of my mommy friends at the library storytime, the local baby gym, and our local mom’s group. Now that DD is older, it’s even easier for us to meet new people at the park, local kids’ events, etc…
Being a new mom can be somewhat isolating and somewhat lonely, so don’t be afraid to take the first step and introduce yourself to other moms/dads at these types of events. Probably, other parents are just as nervous/anxious to meet new people as you are. 🙂 It’s really easy to talk about your babies at first, too, so asking about their baby’s age, name, developments, etc… is a great conversation starter if you’re nervous.
Post # 12
You are lucky! My co-worker keeps telling me that I should not worry about it. But all his siblings and cousins are all the same age with kids all in the 2 year range. As are all his friends. *rolleyes* Our close friends are no where near ready yet for kids.
Thank you! I def plan to when she’s older to take her to story hour, children’s museums etc.
Being a new mom can be somewhat isolating and somewhat lonely, so don’t be afraid to take the first step and introduce yourself to other moms/dads at these types of events.
Thank you so much for the reassurance!
It’s so hard for me to open up to strangers and be the one to walk up to a complete stranger and say hi. Even in a social setting! But once the ice is broken I tend to open up really quickly. My husband and I are both kinda the same way. I feel like we need to change that a bit for the sake of our child!
Post # 13
I agree with your other posters, and I’ll add my two cents, too.
I was 38 when my daugter was born, and now I’m 39. People would tell me, “Oh, you’ll meet mommies. Don’t worry.” But I wasn’t sure that I would, given that I’m a bit older than the average new mom. Well, they were right. I went to the breastfeeding support group offered once weekly by my hospital. Granted, I didn’t really have any breastfeeding issues (knock wood), but I saw it as a great way to meet other new moms, and it was. I’m now part of a group of moms with babies around the same age as mine, and we meet at least once weekly for a play date. It’s great fun!
I also met a few other moms (and hopet o meet more) through Meetup.com. Some groups have a fee but some groups don’t.
There’s a new mom support group offered by my hospital and I’ve been a few times, but the moms that I’ve met there either seem to have some real issues or are pretty well-established with each other and I’m not sure they’re the moms for me.
But I second what everyone else says, that you’ll meet other moms. A few moms I know met each other at the store by chance!
Post # 14
@regberadaisy: thankfully my niece and nephews are roughly all around the same age. the oldest will be just turning 5 when LO is born and the one closest to his age will be 1 1/2. however, my sister is moving out of state this summer so we won’t be seeing them as much as i would like. we just moved into our neighborhood last year, and everyone either seems to be our parents age, or have kids that look like they are in their teens. we don’t talk to anyone around here. majority of our friends aren’t anywhere close to having a child….and LO isn’t going to be going to daycare….so in short…other than my niece and nephews, i’m not sure how LO is going to find someone to hang out with.
Post # 15
I did a lot! new mom support groups, breastfeeding groups, new mom lunches, mommy & me exercise classes. I was out every day from about a week into maternity leave, running around the neighborhood, I loved it!
ETA: I live in an urban environment so this was maybe easier – just walk out the front door and go 🙂