Post # 1
Just curious, is there a way to word RSVP’s so that if you invite 1 guest, you intend for only that 1 guest? Kinda hard to explain but lets say I invite a friend of mine who is single and send him an invite, what if he responds with 2 guests (as in he’ll bring a friend). Fiance and I are paying for EVERYTHING ourselves and are very limited with the amount of people to invite. I am trying to think ahead and am curious how to go about a situation like this? I fear that lots of single will RSVP with a guest as not to go alone.
I also have heard that other Bees make sure that their friends don’t bring gf’s they have been dating for less than a year for the sake of them breaking up and you being stuck having to pay for her plate. How do you go about this as well?
Post # 3
I think a lot of people make the rsvp cards say something like “__ of X [pre-filled] will be in attendance”
Post # 4
Etiquette suggests that you dont put the girlfriends name on the envelope and guys are suppose to be smart enough to figure that out :). To be safe, nn the RSVP, you can put ___ of 1 guest will attend so it is clear they are not being invited with a +1. I have also heard of brides filling in the number so it says 1 of 1 guest.
Post # 5
We did ours like this:
“We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” I filled in how many, then for their response I put:
“___ of 2 (again, I filled this in) will attend”
So that way they can write “2 of 2” or “0 of 2”
Hope that helps 🙂
Post # 6
We’re probably going to just put the name with a check box for “accepts” or “declines,” no extra spaces involved. Minimizes the BS, I think.
Post # 7
Great Ideas, thanks girls!
Post # 8
I have the same fears, we opted not to manipulate the RSVP cards and hope for the best, but in the event that this happens, we will just have to call and explain.
Post # 9
We did only online RSVPs, and set the site up in such a way that people just got to note “accepts” or “regrets” with regard to those who were actually invited. However, there is really no way to keep at least some people from begging for a plus 1. You just have to be firm with anyone who tries.
Post # 10
its a bit lonely to show up at a wedding alone though.. guess life is hard for singles
Post # 11
Write the guests names on the rsvp card. I did that an didn’t get any extra guests.