how do YOU meet new people (friends) once out of school?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Hi! I know how hard it can be living abroad and not really knowing anybody, but keep your chin up – it will get better. My family lived in South America (Bolivia) for a number of years. I totally understand the language difference, the cultural difference, and how hard a new place can be.

Yes, the English service at church sounds wonderful and is a great place to start. Don’t limit yourself to just English events, though. You’ll find that many people actually speak English, but they wouldn’t attend the English speaking events. Also, other expats can be really useful and can become really great friends, but so can the local people. A few of my best friends are native Bolivians.

You said you work…..do you enjoy any of your co-workers? Have you attended any of the meetup events? I also attended Spanish classes while I lived in Bolivia (my Spanish wasn’t great when we moved there), and I met many wonderful people in that class. Are there yoga studios near you (I don’t know if you’re into yoga), or “workshops” and class type things that interest you? I would try those.

 

 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@chica95110:  We used to move every year when I was married to my first husband.

The best way to meet people is to do activities that you like to do. There you can meet people with similar interests.

Meetup can be great but don’t schedule meetings with individual people. Go to group events that involve doing something you like to do or want to do- hikes, bike rides, art gallery tours etc

It’s too easy for one person to get nervous and cop out and cancel.

Never take a day off work to meet someone. That is a waste of money.

Once you have met someone sharing an activity, it’s a lot easier to invite them to grab a coffee following the event.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@chica95110:  First, just because she had to cancel does not mean you cant trust ALL PEOPLE. Sometime sh*t happens to really reliable people and sometimes you meet a flake, but that doesnt mean ALL PEOPLE are going to treat you badly.

I know you are frustrated. I know you want to reach out and meet people. But dont take each and every meeting so seriously. Have you ever been on a date with a guy who was WAAAAYYY more into it than you were? Yeah, really bad desparate vibes.

Not to mention, if you had to rearrange your schedule to meet her, it’s not a good sign that you’d be able to meet up with her again.

After school/college it is so much harder to meet people. The way I’ve made friends is church,  volunteering and taking classes (not college classes, like language classes).

Does your church have services on other days of the week? Or does it have bible study classes? I know in many countries their is a running/drinking club for expats called Hash Hound Harriers. I just typed in Expats in mexico and there are many other clubs that you can join. Maybe there is a way for you to volunteer to teach English.

The opportunites are out there. Just find something you enjoy doing and you’ll meet like-minded people and a friendship will naturally blossom.

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