How do you motivate your SO to work out?

posted 3 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Worker bee

Learn to go on your own, and eat smaller portions than he does.  If he has two scoops of icecream, you only have one etc.  If he has a huge bowl of pasta, you only have a small one.   You don’t have to match him bite for bite!

And once you’re going to gym and your own and eating less, the difference will be obvious, and your husband might want to do the same.  Stop blaming him, and look after your own health.  You can’t change him, but you can change you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I literally just told my DH that I wanted to start going to the gym, I dragged his butt to golds gym and got us both a membership and forced him to pay extra so we had a personal trainer. Now he feels like we HAVE to go to get our money’s worth, plus him and the trainer really hit it off and he makes it fun to wok out with him. 

It doens’t hurt that my DH is an ex wrestler/firefighter though. He isn’t in the BEST shape of his life now, but he knows how to workout and push himself, so thats good! 

Maybe getting a personal trainer he would like to hang around would help? Our is only around $30 a session, which is a good deal! 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@desiree.0615:  Exercise on your own. If you don’t want to go to the gym alone there are a few options: buy some exercise equipment, buy a bike (or go out on a bike if you already have one), or simply put on your shoes and jog around the neighbourhood. I never suggest or tell DH to exercise. I just lead by example – and it seems to encourage him to exercise more too.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@desiree.0615:  If you don’t want to go alone, find a friend. Constantly asking and pressuring him, whether you mean to or not, will only come across badly and have the opposite effect you’re looking for and make him feel worse. He has to want to make a change and motivate himself, you can’t force it upon him.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My guy is pretty competitive, so the moment I started working out regularly, he followed suit and tries to hit the gym a few times a week. I playfully tease him about it too and tell him I’ll get way more buff than him, and he likes the challenge to keep up!

As far as the eating goes – do you do the shopping and cooking, or does he do a lot of it? I am the main one who grocery shops and cooks, so I simply don’t purchase unhealthy items and stick with making healthier meals. Obviously he’s an adult and can eat crap if he wants to, but he’ll have to buy and prepare it himself. Ultimately he’d much rather eat food already prepared by me.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to echo everyone else and say to just start on your own and he will follow. My DH is pretty good about going for runs, plus he refs and plays hockey and golfs all the time. When he works out I feel like I need to but I can’t get motvated unless I actually go to a gym (so that’s what I do).

On the flipside, when my DH says things like “baby you’ve been bad about going to the gym this week, you gotta get back to it” I feel bad about myself and so I am less likely to want to go. It makes working out a negative thing. So don’t do this to your hubby.

You could always try to motivate each other with some friendly competition. Or something like you put a dollar in a jar for every workout and then treat yourselves to a date night or something.

Personally I just started using an app called gympact. It makes you pay $ everytime you don’t meet  your goal (# of gym sessions per week) but pays you if you do!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@desiree.0615:  Thats exactly why I wanted a trainer! The gym was full of awesome equipment that I had NO CLUE how to use! Now I feel like I am working my body and also getting a good education on how to workout! 

🙂 Hope it works for you guys! We are so glad we did it! 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@desiree.0615:  It can be tough. Look into a nutrition class or talking to a nutritionist? I found it overwhelming at first too, but then I learned a lot from the nutrition class I took a year or so ago.

I just try to make veggie-heavy meals and go light on the grains and fatty meat. Eat more fish. Switch to whole grain instead of white products. Eat slightly smaller portions. Stop buying the Oreos (okay, I still do, but I don’t eat a whole sleeve at once lol). Drink water or plain tea – no soda!

I dropped 30lbs from making very slight changes in my diet. The changes I made were not drastic, but in the course of a year or two, it took the weight off.

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