how do you move to another city with a baby?

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

anonybee0810:  Why are you planning to wait to move until your baby is 6 months old? It seems like all of this could be done a LOT easier without a baby in the picture. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

anonybee0810:  if the other city you want to be in has a better options for both housing and jobs and you would save money by moving there, why are you waiting until you start a family to move?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

anonybee0810:  Also, it seems to me that waiting to move in the midst of being pregnant and changing jobs with a new baby, new home, new place in general is just going to be really overwhelming. I think the best idea would be to get as settled as you can be in a new home, new city,and have some time in on a new job before having a family. that way when you are prgnant and planning for baby, you can avoid the stress of a move and a new job. And lastly, the money you will save by moving now will help with being more prepared financially for a baby. Not that you aren’t now but the more you have the better off you will be.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The reason most people rent initially when they move is so that they can familiarize themselves with the city-desirable neighbourhoods.

If you went to university in this city, I assume you already have that knowledge.

If you are still on mat leave when you move, you will have plenty of time to scout out good day care before you go back to work.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

anonybee0810:  Why not move before getting pregnant? I don’t understand this part at all….

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We moved when my baby was 4-5 mo old.  We didn’t move across the country, but it doesn’t sound like you are doing that either.  Ours was within 5 miles.  It takes a lot more effort to move with a baby but the easiest thing to do would be to 1) hire movers and then 2) have your family come watch the baby while you take care of any house things that need to bed one (painting, etc).

We had my parents or just my mom come over multiple weekends in a row (they live nearby) and either my dad would watch the baby while my mom and I painted (or unpacked) or my husband would watch the baby while my mom and I did stuff.

I don’t know why you would need to live with parents or in a rental when you already know the area and should know what you’re looking for and where at.  I think the most dififcult part is having someone to watch the baby if you need to do stuff (like paint or remodel) that baby can’t be around.  But since your family lives there it should be a lot easier!

It was a pain, but it’s easy enough to figure out.  Do it before baby is walking and crawling though lol.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

anonybee0810:  I don’t really think it’s complicated moving to another city- just because you have a baby- especially because you will be on maternity leave, AND you’re moving to a place where family is– it’s much easier than the oppopsite– moving while NOT on maternity leave or not staying home with baby, away from family- where you don’t have an help.  

The only thing is you’ll have to tote a baby while setting up new home and moving– which, sure, is a little more work…but it can be done, especially with family so close.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

anonybee0810:  Ohhhhh, ok. Makes much more sense now. 🙂  Some companies will offer relocation assistance if they are eager to get someone in the door. While you can’t really count on that as Plan A, your husband should definitely ask about this when he’s considering any offers. For example, they can hook you up with vetted real estate agents and lenders who can fast-track your mortgage app, and procure and sometimes even subsidize temporary housing while you look for a your new home, then send trusted movers to move all your stuff once you’re ready.

If this is NOT an option, I personally would not want to move twice in such a short period of time, especially with a new baby. I would probably ask hubby to try the commute for a week or two to see how bad it is. Or maybe plan for him to make the commute Mon & Fri, then Tues-Thurs, either stay (just him) with my parents or in a hotel.

One more thing to think about, would his current employer allow him to telecommute? That way, you could move to be closer to family without being under such pressure. And if your husband decided to stick with the telecommuting job, cool; and if he decided it wasn’t working out and he’d rather look closer to home, who could blame him? This would actually be my Plan A if his current company is amenable.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think moving with a 6 month old would be that difficult. My husband and I just moved across the country with our 2-year-old and the hardest part was that she kept asking to see her friends in our old state. We stayed in a hotel for one month, then a furnished apartment for one month, before our house was ready. We were living out of suitcases for those 2 months so that required careful packing, and our daughter was a little bored without most of her toys. She also kept asking to go “home”. But with an infant who’s not aware of the change, I think it should be fine.

If you plan to buy a house, I would not do a short-term rental unless it is completely furnished so you don’t have to do an extra move. My husband’s new company gave us a relocation package that paid for our housing for up to 3 months after we moved, so we would have time to buy a house. We thought about renting for longer (and moving our furniture and everything in) before buying, but we didn’t want the hassle of two full house moves within a year.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

anonybee0810:  Regarding your reasons why you don’t want to move now, another good one is that if you do get pregnant quickly, it is likely to be be much more difficult to find for you to find employment, especially if you start showing early (I am assuming you have to be employed in order to access the maternity leave coverage). This is basically the boat my husband and I wound up in…we planned to move shortly after we got married, but I got pregnant right away, and even if I had been able to find a job while pregnant, I have great benefits at my current job, and in the US you must be employed by a company for twelve months before you have access to federally protected leave. So like you we may well wind up moving when the baby is in the 6-8 month range, after my maternity leave ends (but a lot further than a 90 minute drive :-)).

If you decide to get a short term rental, I suggest getting a furnished place and renting a storage unit to store your own things so you don’t have to move in everything twice. Honestly, if I were in your position and moving to a town so close by, I’d want my husband to commute the 90 minutes each way till we had a house (assuming he was willing). My commute is about that long, and it does completely suck, but at least he’d have an end in sight and would be saving you all a lot of inconvenience in the long run. Maybe he could even work from home a few days a week.

Also agree with a few others that he should try to negotiate relocation assistance, even if its access to resources rather than rental reimbursement. You might already live too close to benefit, but it’s worth a shot.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We moved 100 miles when DD was just over a year old. We moved back to my childhood town where a lot of my family were still living.

My husband found a job just after our house sold. There was abut 3 months from selling to moving date and he agreed a start date with his employer with flaxability in case something went wrong.

I took my daughter to my parents the week before we moved. My husband was working his notice right up until moving day so we hired a removal company who also did all our packing.

I travelled back up to the house on moving day to help.

During the week DD was at my parents we took her to the new house (we were lucky enough to be allowed the keys during office house to redecorate as the house was empty). DD was able to familierise herself with all the rooms before officially moving in.

We tired to keep everything familier for her to aid the transition. Although we redecorated her room, we kept her old bedding until she was settled. 

DD was a bit confused for a week or so but soon settled in. 

It would have been much harder if we didnt have my parents to look after her and the packers were worth the money. 

I would say stay with your parents if they are happy with it. Its only short term. you can put your belongings in storage and it will be nice for a future child to be with the grandparents. 

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