Post # 1
Evening Lovely Bees.
I have a question and seek advise as well. I currently have a two year old daughter going through the “It’s mine” phase in her life. She’s had two years of being the center of our universe and now I found out we are expecting another. YAY. But how do I go about preparing her for a new baby? She still doesn’t speak so talking to her isn’t going to work, hopefully in 9 months that will change (please let that change). Any parents go through this as well? How well did it turn out? Any advise or words of wisdom? I’m so excited about her being a little sister soon and can’t wait but I do have my concerns.
Post # 2
I am in a similar situation and am commenting to follow. I’m wondering the same thing!
Post # 3
My Dirty Delete will almost be 3 when her sibling arrives. We didn’t start talking about the baby with her until the last few months.
We approach it in a positive manner. Tell her how the baby will love her, and that she is going to be an AWESOME big sister. I’ve tried my best to make her feel proud that she’s going to be the big sis. I’ve kept her involved with showing her things for the baby as I buy them. We also recently potty-trained her, and she’s becomming really keen on the whole, “I’m a big girl, not a baby” attitude, which I think will help when it comes to the baby arriving.
Now how this actually all goes down is another story. Dirty Delete is a mama’s girl, so I don’t think she is really going to like seeing a baby attached to me all the time. I’m going to try very hard to keep her involved. She loves helping, so asking her to get things for the baby (diapers, wipes, etc) will hopefully keep her happy and make her feel like she is involved. I also know I will need to really put a lot of effort into making sure i spend one-on-one time with her so she doesn’t feel put-aside.
Post # 4
We started exposing our son to more time around other babies, especially where I held the babies. He was slightly older (4 when Dirty Delete was born), but I think it helped him understand what it meant that there was going to be another kiddo around. We also made sure he was involved as much as he wanted to be once Dirty Delete was born (helping change diapers, feeding her, bathing her, holding her, etc) – really put him in the “big brother” role early.
Post # 5
We had been TTC for a few months but then had kind of figured that maybe it’d be best if our Dirty Delete was a tad older ….aaaaand then we found out we were having another. I’m so HAPPY about it but I worry that she won’t really understand. I like the idea of exposing her to things she’ll be seeing soon and I know as mommy gets bigger she’ll be a tad curious. She’s definitely going through a ‘mine’ phase so maybe having things out will get her used to them enough to not pay attention to them later…or at least be done with them.
Post # 6
Peach_Cobbler: My son is six….so he’s obviously a bit older, and it’s quite easy to talk to him about baby. For us, we talk to him often, ask him if he’s excited, reassure him he will not be asked to change diapers (he really doesn’t want to change diapers LOL). He’s included in name discussions, and he attends ultrasound appointments with us. It’s “our” baby — meaning the whole families. For us, it’s as simple as that.
For a younger sibling– you say your daughter doesn’t talk– but that doesn’t mean she can’t hear and understand. Get a picture book and point to a baby and say “baby”. Then point to your belly and say baby. She’s likely to start understanding.
I have a friend who’s sone turned two in January– but he’s already a talker. The new baby was born in March. Big brother LOVES his baby brother.
I think the most important thing is to make sure your daughter still feels like the’s the center of the universe, but now she has to share her central role with the new baby. There’s no reason to take that feeling away from her– she’s still just as important as she was before there was a new baby.
Post # 7
Peach_Cobbler: I agree with MrsEME: At 18 months it was AMAZING to see what our niece was capable of comprehending even if she couldn’t have a discussion. I showed her a book from our wedding, and she actually recognized where it was and the people.
I would pick up a few “big sister” books and talk to her about it. Even if she can’t ask questions doens’t mean she isn’t getting the information in.
Post # 8
Well my son is 6 and has Down Syndrome, so I guess I was a bit unsure how he might feel. Joey is used to being the center of attention, and we really need to work on sharing actually… What I did was pull out a baby doll (named “Baby” lol) to practice being sweet with. My phone’s acting up, but here’s an Insta-pic I just posted on another thread of Joey putting the “Baby” night-night 🙂