(Closed) how do you REALLY feel about your FI having strippers (or going to a strip club)

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m absolutely 100% against it. There have been quite a few discussions about it here on WB, and I totally respect everyone’s different opinions. I, like you, am very secure in my relationship with my FI, but I’m just not okay with strip clubs. Luckily, he knows this and is perfectly fine with it! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I never really thought that it would bother me. It does but not to where I would tell him not too. I wouldn’t let it stress you out too much… But if it is something that you dont think you can get over and you feel degraded by it maybe you should talk to him and let him know how you feel.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No, you are definitely not crazy. I always told FI “no strippers!” even before we got engaged….but honestly, it wouldn’t bother me THAT much if he went to strip club. Strippers that come to your house or hotel room are another story….I feel like in some cases, they are basically prostitutes. Luckily, I am pretty sure my FI is just going on a surf trip with his buddies…

It sounds like your FI isn’t a big fan of strip clubs or strippers either…why don’t you let him know how it bothers you? He may tell his boys “no” if you express your concern.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It doesn’t bother me. FI doesn’t really want one, but his friends do, so he’ll probably get one. Not a big deal..

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I 100% agree on the strippers coming to the house or hotel room!!!!!  Strip clubs can maybe slide lol but not that!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

If I don’t SEE it, I can live with it. I don’t LIKE it, but whatever… boys will be boys. I know he loves me and is just having “a good time” with the guys.

If we were ever to go together (which I am not totally against), I would be fine as long as no girl laid A FINGER on him.

 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not worried about strippers. I waited tables in a titty bar, and it’s not really that bad. I’m just hoping one of his genius friends doesn’t hire a hooker. That would skeeze me out.

I wouldn’t ruin the other guys fun, I’m sure your FI will have a good time, but I don’t think you have anything to worry about.

We are probably having a joint party and will end up with everyone at a strip club for a little while, girls can enjoy lap dances too!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I honestly have nothing against them, and maybe that’s just been because of my positive experience. I went to one with FI because I’d never been, and honestly I had a blast! The girls were so nice, and gave me some wonderful skin care tips. They each had their own stories and really for the most part were just your everyday run of the mill girl with a job. I think I enjoyed it more than FI did.
He told me later that they’re pretty boring for him since he has me 🙂

Not just words. I looked over at one point and he was playing Tetris on his phone.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I actually do not care at all. I have been to the strip club multiple times and the girls have always been really sweet. They are just doing what they need to to make money. BF actually has said he doesn’t want to go and I say go if you want. I am more against the strippers at the house because it seems so much more personal and they seem to get alittle closer then a normal stripper would. That bothers me. No touching!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I don’t care at all about him going to a strip club. For a friends bachelor party, they went to the upscale club in town, so I assume they’d go the same place for his.

But egad, I would NEVER want strippers to come to them. That just seems super sketchy.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you’re not comfortable about it, don’t feel you have to be. For me anything involving a stripper would be a complete deal breaker. FI knows this because I told him on our first date, five years ago, and he was fine with it.  I don’t care if it’s in a house or a club, if there’s touching or not etc. I’m not celebrating my upcoming nuptials by getting naked in front of some random guy and shaking my ta-ta’s in their face, don’t see why his celebration should involve this. It’s a stupid, chauvinistic tradition and not every woman has to be ok with it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Eh I know my FI and he thinks strippers are pretty gross…His Best man would probably not be into strippers and he is soon to be engaged so im pretty sure the gf might not want him to go either lol..the other gm on the other hand is a little man whore and he might want to instigate “its your last day as a free man” type of crap… but I trust him so if they do go to a strip club im o.k with it but I dunno how i would feel the next day not knowing what actually happened…

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t care. Truth is that probably the only time fi is ever going to go to a strip club will be his bachelor party and I know he isn’t into strippers. His dad is super into that scene and fi finds it pretty gross. Honestly, sometimes I think he’s more into cars/games/computers than women (except me of course).

I believe that he would never cheat on me and at the end of the day, he comes to home to me.

 

I would be kinda pissed if he wasted money on strippers though! lol

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